Do you think I should train with my brother? I am 19m and have 7 siblings, 4 younger and 3 big brothers on my mother's side. Because we have different mothers and my parents have been arguing a lot since I was 5 years old, my older brothers have distanced themselves and only lived with their father since I was 10 years old.
My big brothers are 26m.27m, and 28m years old.
Younger sibblings 10m,13g,18m,19m,19m
Both the large age difference and the fact that they have distanced themselves has meant that we have had a very bad contact. Type again contact at all between 10 years and 18.I have always seen them as my brothers and missed them incredibly much during my upbringing. It has taken a toll on me not to meet them. But it has always felt like they do not want to meet us younger siblings.
But last fall, my mother contacted the older brother and we met and had dinner together. We talked and promised to keep meeting.
So we met twice after that on both initiatives. But since then I have had a lot of work and other things along the way, so have not contacted him since Christmas. Which he has not done either.
But last Sunday I asked if he wanted to meet and maybe train or do something else this week. he replied that "Yes! We speak more in the week" but then he did not write anything so last Friday I wrote to him and asked if he still wanted to meet, and if Sunday worked well and I gave him suggestions on what we could do. He replied that we could do that, but did not respond to my suggestions. so I asked again but got no answer. Today, Sunday, he answers at 1 o'clock and asks if I still want to meet and train.
I think it's weird not to answer, especially since we have such a fragile relationship. If he does not want to meet, it's better for say so.
I'm still eager to train with him, but I feel that he should have an excuse not to have answered me until now, even though he was completely free during the weekend. I'm so damn tired of being treated like shit, and always feel like I need to take the initiative. I think that he and the other big brothers should be the ones who take the initiative.
I have also had some contact with the youngest big brother since 3 years back but it has also started to run out in the sand now.
The problem I have is that I want a relationship with them but never feel that they take the initiative (if very rarely). Because I and my younger siblings have not met my older siblings, we ar almost like strangers, we have missed the important time to grow up with each other. I want to try to build a relationship but it feels especially difficult when you are treated like this.
What do you think I should do? train with him or ignore and see if he makes any contact in the future?
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