AIBU - feeling ill

[spinachmonster]

Sorry if TMI... I'm pregnant and due any day. (Not our first) the other night I had really awful constipation, some of the worst I've ever had where I felt pretty unwell and slightly panicky. It was around 10pm and DH was in bed on his phone.

I went in to grab a towel as was going to try a hot bath. He said
'Are you ok?' While still on his phone- I said 'no, I'm not, it really horrible' (I would not normally say this). I was definitely worked up and clearly distressed.

He didn't say or do anything, but when I got out of the bath 20 mins later had gone to sleep.

I just don't feel like that's great? If he'd told me he wasn't ok I would have definitely asked if there was anything I can do? (I certainly wouldn't have been able to sleep either, but I suspect that's just me.)

Struggling to get past this, I don't want to be cross with him, especially with labour imminent. But unsure if I'm being unreasonable due to pregnancy hormones? Any ideas gratefully received.

(He said yesterday that he's sorry and if he could turn back time and behave differently, he would but he can't. I do appreciate the apology, but it feels like he thinks it was totally fine- only apologised because I was unhappy.)

Hello. I remember getting my first contraction with my second baby and I said to my now ex I think it's starting but don't worry I'm OK for abit yet. He went back to sleep. Only for ten minutes though because it was a quick labour lol!

Men don't always get it right with this stuff. But try and not get too upset. He perhaps thought you was getting settled so left you to it. He might be tired himself. But perhaps he's just not appreciating how tough pregnancy Is.

I have on and off through my 7 years of parenting and pregnancies had those panicky feelings. They are horrible.

I was constipated with my first pregnancy around 15 weeks I remember really struggling.

Try not to get stressed out. People can be really irritating when you are pregnant x

Nothing is unreasonable of you at this stage of pregnancy- it’s crap. Are you sure you’re constipated rather than it being baby’s head has moved down? If so you can ask for a gentle stool softener or similar at the pharmacy- they won’t give you a laxative though i wouldn’t think.
In all kindness i would cut your husband slack- it’s the end of pregnancy and he will probably be expecting you to be sore etc so when you said “no it’s really horrible” is that anything out of the ordinary? It was that point that you should have said “so i’d like … insert here, what could he have done that would have helped any? You had the bath ready, short of him giving you an enemy or a suppository i honestly don’t see what would help.
Make up and have a nice cuddle- if it’s nice enough you might get things going with the oxytocin release and the prostaglandin input!!! 😂😂😂

Thank you both for your responses @Strawberrydelight55 @SNWannabe
I think that's just what I needed to hear and thanks for being kind about it. I'll make sure I put it behind me which will be better for all of us. Thank you

I was really irritated at the end. People's advice drove me crazy. I went overdue and because I was sitting about I had my sister telling Me that's probably why. My mum said I needed to try walking. I remember just feeling really defensive as I was out and about abit. People telling me to eat a pineapple like it was the cure lol

I hope you feel better and you'll soon be on the other side now.

This is the sort of thing my partner would do but it's really just that when he is tired he can sleep ridiculously easily and is a bit blinkered. If he is generally a good husband I would say try to move on from it if you can. Congratulations and good luck with baby!