Is my ex bread crumbing me or being friendly?

[Happyflowerr]

Had seen him around but hadn't spoken for a few months since the breakup. I have been trying to avoid him but he is friends with my friends so the other night at a bar i couldn't avoid him and we ended up catching up and talking quite a bit. I went home and thought he was just trying to be friendly but he ended up messaging me saying "It was really good seeing you tonight" and we messaged a bit then he aired me!!! Now so confused i don't get if that was him being friendly messaging me or he's trying to mess with me!

There's a reason you broke up.

Is ‘aired’ an autocorrect for ‘called’?

Oh I googled. Aired means ignored.
FGS just block him.

If he attempts this again you could say

"It was good to catch up last time and it really helped me to close that chapter of my life. Go to go... busy"

Your relationship ended for a reason, you have no need to revisit it. This will send that message whilst being polite, so it won't affect your wider friendship group.

can you please translate the thread title for us oldies!

"Breadcrumbing" is when someone throws you a crumb of affection, just enough to keep you interested, but has no intention of getting serious with you.

OP it sounds like he was being friendly and wants to avoid things being awkward if you do socialise together. I wouldn't ascribe it any more meaning than that.

Who cares? He's your ex (for a reason).

I'm inclined to say friendly/bored so he decided to message you, but wasn't actually interested in anything more so cut the conversation when something more entertaining came up.

I wouldn't worry about it. He's your ex. Remind yourself why you broke up in the first place. Don't let him get into your head.

Feelings aren't like light switches, they can't go from totally on to totally off in an instant. If you haven't had much contact since breaking up, then it's quite likely he was wondering how you were getting on and was glad to catch up. Only time will tell if he wants to get back together. And it sounds like you had a friendly conversation, so unless he has previous form for mind games it's probably best to just wait and see.

Agree, mute him.

I guess he’s just curious to know whether you still like him. Don’t give him any more time.

If he's causing you to ask this question, back away. The right guy for you would never make you feel like this. You'd feel wanted, no mistake.

The reason people don't always wear their heart on their sleeve is because they're scared of getting hurt. Leaving things a bit ambiguous doesn't automatically make someone a bad person.

I’d say breadcrumbing.

I’d ignore any future messages. Obviously be civil when you see him and if he asks why you didn’t respond just say oh I meant to but got busy. He will get the message.

Think of it this way. Friendly text chats are only likely to cause problems in any new relationship that you have and you already have enough friends yes??!!

Perhaps he isn't sure himself and doesn't know how you feel. Its hard isn't it trying to read them. What do you truly think? Would you consider more again. If so you need to also test the waters. If not perhaps he is aware you are done so holding back.

I thought I read something written by my 15 year old niece. Move on and block him, you're a grown adult and far too old to be obsessing about this. It's reads like a teenage does he or doesn't he like me scenario.