How do you distract yourself from messaging him?

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I called it a day with a man who I had been seeing for the past 5 months. I am sad even though it was the right decision, he was going days without talking to me, wouldn't finger me ( says he didn't like it) wasn't really interested in kissing me, wasn't interested in going out for meals or going on dates although he would up out with his friends, I was just generally unhappy. I had been making excuses for him as he has recently lost his mum and I was hoping things would improve but they haven't and I just decided I couldn't live like this any longer. We have had no contact since and I can feel myself becoming tempted to reach out when I know it's a terrible idea. I know it will pass but what do you to to tie your hands behind your back and distract yourself in the meantime?

Block and delete his number and ask yourself why you would want someone who doesn't seem to like you very much.

Delete his number, delete all conversations and block on all SM.

Go out with friends

I've just moved out of my mums into my own place this week as I well so i feel so lonely at the moment when I get home from work in the evenings but I know it's better to be lonely than to put up with being treated badly 😔

Can I recommend the audiobook block, delete and move on. Also in your weak moments I'd suggest you read what you've written here.

Is it him (as a person) that you miss or do you reckon it’s the sex/intimacy that you miss?

You just miss the routine. Get a new one and you will be right.

Go on tinder and find someone new to chat to. You might find someone nice and it will take your mind off him. Delete his number. And block it.

Okay so right now you have not messaged him, he doesn't respect you or really like you, but at least he knows you have some standards to end things.

You text him - all this does is eradicate the last point. So you would be removing any semblance of respect he would be gaining for you, and STILL be left with no messages, no relationship, and you would feel EVEN MORE shit.

Do something else.

Delete his number, then...

Call a friend to go for a nice meal
Watch a movie with a bottle of wine
Karaoke
Write some of your novel, article, story, fan fiction
Go for a walk or jog, do Couchto5K
Call someone you've not spoken to in ages
Go to a friend's or family member's home for the evening to recharge

Take a break from dating, work on yourself. A guy I was basically meeting for sex left all my messages on read and disappeared. I archived his messages, deleted his number and focused on me. Dug my futbit out, weiged myself and found I've put on half a stone. Got exercising, walking more, drinking water and eating better and after a week I felt so much better. The new focus took my mind off him. I Decided to give myself a month before even thinking about looking for anyone else. You know he's no good, neither was the spunk trumpet I got tangled up with.

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Yeah block and delete the number including all calls/chat histories so there's no temptation to message him.

By the sounds of things, he wasn't into you and was using you for sex.

Good for you for moving on - stay strong!

Block 0n everything. You’ll get through this sounded a selfish lover anyway.

Sh*ing in your hands and clapping sounds more appealing than messaging him.

"he was going days without talking to me, wouldn't finger me ( says he didn't like it) wasn't really interested in kissing me, wasn't interested in going out for meals or going on dates although he would up out with his friends, I was just generally unhappy." Reread this. Over and over. Every single time you feel tempted.