To Think this is Creepy?

[datingdilema]

I've been on a few dating sites over the years and had messages from a particular guy which I have ignored. I'm not interested as he smokes and I don't find him attractive from his photos.

On a site I was on a while ago my profile had my name, location and the industry I worked in but not the name of the company. With this information he has found me on LinkedIn and sent me an invite. I've found this really creepy. He's obviously remember this information as I'm careful now about revealing work details.

What do you think?

Yes you're setting yourself up to be found using such platforms.
I deleted my account when my horrible boss's name appeared bavause of algorithms I guess 🤷

I only use my first name by the way but yes you are right.

Do not post any private information about yourself on your profile minus your age and your first name. You’ve obviously learned this though!

a huge chunk of men on dating apps are creepy I’m afraid. Don’t be a Disney Princess and try to see the good in people because the worst tinder date could literally get you assaulted or murdered.

I personally would screenshot the invite, then reject the invite and then send a message to his HR with the screenshot stating you did not connect on a dating app, and his attempting to reach out to you on a professional platform under his company’s banner. This was assuming I felt safe and he had no way of accessing my address. But I’m quite vindictive when it comes to weird men on the internet. Might be best to just block and move on!

I think men on LinkedIn will try to use it as a dating site full stop, regardless if they recognise you from dating platforms.

Lots of creepy people out there, OP. Don't allow yourself to be vulnerable to them by giving too much away.

I joined Linkedin in 2013 as I was made redundant and it was good for contacts.

Now? It's become just another version of Facebook with all the 'look at me' posts and posy pictures.

Waste of time now.

Yep very creepy.
I once had a brief discussion with someone on a night out. Made it clear I was married (as was he!) and wasn't interested in him... I didn't even tell him my name but mentioned where I worked. I left early because I was working the next day.
While at work an email popped up from him!! Apparently he thought there was a spark and he just had to track me down!

Obviously I deleted and blocked him but it was very creepy!

What is especially creepy is he must have remembered my details from another dating site about a year ago as I reveal very little details now.

I totallly agree about LinkedIn. Everyone on there seems to love their job/have fantastic colleagues or have a sob story. I like to see people overcoming things but is it really necessary to share on LinkedIn unless it is overcoming work difficulties?

I have heard of LinkedIn being used as a dating site.
It is creepy. I have heard of men and women who keep screenshots of online conversations and profiles and keep spreadsheets of who they are talking to keep track.

I've blocked him on LinkedIn and on the site.