I maybe a bit jaded or date differently. If I am into a guy I normally have a 3 date rule. If I like him and feel chemistry after date 3, date 4 is sleep over.
I normally date multiple people - but dont sleep with multiple people. I use dating apps a lot and do have a first date weekly. Some process to other dates, but mostly others are just one date. The ones who proceed to date 2 or 3 get a bit flirty through text and keen for a sleep over. The can be off putting.
I realised I hadn’t had a relationship for a while and was constantly dating. Getting jaded with guys who are too sexual over text. My friend pointed out that I never give people a chance as I always have a date lined up with someone else.
so I have changed my view. Met a guy I click with on date 1, so come off dating apps to see what could develop as I felt I always thought something better was out there. . So far some really nice thought out dates and he has been a gentleman. Lovely texts not overly flirty or any dirty texts. We spent 12 hours together on date 3 on a day out. He was attentive, but did snog me in the park - we are in our 40s so not a great look😂.
date 4 is this weekend and I am going to his for take away and will be nice to spend some chilled time. I suggested wine, thinking I could stay over, but he responded wont you be driving?
so are my expectations of guys that bad that I think it’s odd he hasn’t suggested a sleep over or sent any dirty flirty texts. I think he is interested as he keeps arranging things, but used to guys being creeps or overly flirty. Have a met a rare gentleman or is he on the fence about me?