Why am I so pathetically jealous !!

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I’ve never been the jealous type before. I always want my boyfriend to enjoy himself with his friends and have his own life .

I have had some mental health difficulties and it’s been hard. My boyfriend has admitted he has struggled but we are working through things. He said the most encouraging loving things today

He went to a wedding this weekend with friends and he’s uploaded loads of pictures. All the thoughts in my head - why does he want to upload anyone that’s not me? Who are these girls he has his arms round? Why does he have more fun with all of them than me?

It’s pathetic I know it is, and I know full well. He reassures me constantly. But I still feel so stressed and I cannot pinpoint why. So why on Earth can’t I switch this feeling off???? And what can I do to change? I’ve never been like this until recently

Why weren't you invited to the wedding?

If you've never been irrationally jealous before, maybe it's not so irrational.

It does sound like there could be more to it. As PP says why weren’t you invited?

He was only invited to the reception - it was work colleagues and no +1s were invited

Yep that he way to go, the OP is already felling jealous and the comments on here wont help!.
Maybe the bride/groom doesnt know the OP and is old friends with her DP, maybe they had limited numbers for the wedding.
Unless DP has given you a reason to not trust him then you need to work on your self esteem and understand why you dont feel good enough. Just because he may be smiling in photos doesnt mean that hes having more fun with friends than when hes out with you

Remember that is absolutely normal to be jealous, though not to extremes. You love him and want to be in his life and he should include you. Perhaps he should have taken you at the wedding with him? instead leaving you at home all alone?? And ofc he should have fun with you , do activities , do things with you mostly and not other people . Ofc it's normal to have and want some time for yourself, but usually that comes naturally anyway. Don't beat yourself too much.

Are you completely and happy and fulfilled within the relationship OP? Maybe your subconscious/heart is telling too something and you should listen. Xxx

Jeez! Sorry for the typos. Holding baby in one hand and typing with the other 🤣🤣

Perfectly normal to feel some jealously. It becomes an issue when it starts to overwhelm you.

If you've been suffering from poor mental health, then that could certainly explain why you're feeling jealous when you're normally not the jealous type. When your mental health is poor, everything feels exaggerated, every emotion feels ten times more intense.

From the small post that you've written, I reckon that the jealousy is just a consequence of your poor mental health. Work on whatever it is that is causing you to feel down, and take it from there.