how do i know if i can keep going?

[sueanne23]

been with my partner of nearly three years, weve been arguing quiet a bit i love this man to pieces but sometimes im so scared because of my past and he doesnt help make me feel better dispite keep saying he understands but does he really. i dont want to lose him i just want to have a bit more understanding from him.

Understanding from a bloke? Depends what the background is & what happened. Do you want to expand and tell us more about what you’re scared of?
There’s only so much anyone can do before they might start to feel jaded by the topic if it’s constantly humming along in the background.
If he says he understands and you love one another maybe you can start believing him? Maybe counselling would help you get a grip and move forward.
You are in a lonesome place but the paucity of detail is difficult for any of us to comment. I feel for you but maybe you’re asking too much of another human being?

What happens when you feel bad and want to feel better, OP? What do you wish he'd do, and what does he actually do?

We've been together for nearly three years and he has messaged other woman in the past saying he don't know what he is doing and then I'm constantly feeling like I'm no good because he managed to know what he was doing after I told him what he did wring and hasn't done it since but I'm still worried it's going to happen again

You deserve better than this OP.

You will never be able to deal with your past, strengthen your MH or work on your self esteem while you are in this relationship.

Leave, get some counselling, do the freedom course and don’t get back into a relationship until you genuinely like and respect yourself.