Ive been dating someone since January, we made things official at the end of March. This is the first person I’ve been with since my sons dad. He has not met my son yet.
At first he was very intense, he told me he loved me after a few weeks, didn’t want to leave me, was very keen to be ‘official’ after a very short time, but did make comments if I didn’t respond to his messages quickly enough.
I found it overwhelming but I liked him so I told him I’d like to slow it down, and he seemed to listen and things were good.
Since being bf/gf though there’s a lot of things he has said that have given me red flags. We spoke about tinder (how we met) and he told me a girl who he’d spoke to for a day or so stopped replying to him so he kicked off and sent her a big message and told her where to go. He tells me men are so lonely and women can’t possibly be as lonely as men because women get everything they want, and that he’s always treat terribly by women because he’s ‘too nice’ and women want to be treat badly.
There have been occasions where he’ll seem jealous, or insinuate I have ‘another boyfriend’. He makes the odd snarky comment too about women never paying their way and expecting men to pay for everything, eventhough we’ve ALWAYS split everything 50/50, I earn significantly less than him so it makes me feel a bit crap like he thinks I’d try scrounge off him.
Im pretty sure I want to end things, but I’ve got no idea how to go about it or what to say. Things between us have been fine, but I can’t shake the red flag feeling. He is reminding me a lot of an ex who was emotionally abusive and it’s making me very anxious, so I’m a little scared of how he will react to me ending things because we haven’t argued, but it’s just not sitting right.
Any advice is welcome