Dating with an age difference….

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I have been single (through choice, not lack of opportunity) for the past five years but have recently met someone and miraculously got ‘that’ feeling. I thought I was past it! We just click. I keep waiting for a dick move, but nothing has come.

Aside from the fact we both have kids from previous relationship’s, the other thing that is making me hesitant is that he is 9 years older than me.

Has anyone experience of an age gap this big here? How did it go? We share similar interests but his friends are all older than me and even though I’m pushing forty and him fifty I notice the difference! Has it been a deal breaker for anyone?

I really really like him but am trying to have my head screwed on and no love goggles and evaluate things from my head. Kids, houses and lives will all change if we move forward together, and I really don’t want it to go south (again 🙈).

I don't think 9 yrs is a big difference at all tbh , if you get on well give it a go , nothing to lose and everything to gain .

I do not think9 years is a big deal at all.

That's not a big difference imo. I'm 40 and dh is 50. I don't really notice it to be honest

9 years is nothing. I thought you were going to say he was 30 years older or something.

@SallyWD yeah that would be extreme!

I have never dated anyone a decade older, so it seemed like something that could potentially be a pit fall. I am so scared of falling in love again and it all going wrong.

@Comedycook thanks for sharing, at similar ages that’s reassuring to hear.

Meh. I'm 30 and dated a 43 year old. He's now my best friend. 9 years is nothing really!

It sounds fine? It's not a huge gap tbh. You both sound like you really like each other so enjoy it

It could all go wrong with someone the same age aswell.
Take a risk and enjoy his company , what's the worst that could happen , a meal out with a friend . Don't put pressure on yourself just enjoy a new friendship

How old are yours and his children? That’s the only stumbling block I could see if his are 10 years older

What's the risk?

I had a 16 year age gap in a previous relationship and it never caused us any problems (apart from having to explain the odd cultural reference to each other). He was a lovely man and the best boyfriend I ever had.

There were 9.5 years between my parents and they were married for 53 years until my dad died.

I can't understand what your issue is. It's not like you're wanting to have more kids. Nine years is nothing. My parents are nine years apart and have been married for 53 years.

My DH is 10 years younger than me.

age doesn’t matter- it’s the stage you are in life which is important.

i had 2 kids and when I met DH (he had none) he was wanting to settle down. 5yrs later were married with our own baby plus the 2 DC from my previous.

age has never made any issues. Apart from when he can’t remember certain programmes and things !!