I have quite bad mental health. Bad anxiety and depressive states. My DP has known this and when I got pregnant he was very supportive. I’ve been seeing a mental health midwife and that’s also been great.
We have been thrown a bit of a curveball in that DP has been relocated with work nearly 150 miles away - this is non negotiable in his work. Moving there with him would mean my entire support network is gone. Because of this he’s made an application to an entirely new company, which is a huge risk to him as he might not get it, he won’t know the people and he already has a very good career. The new job is the same salary but it’s obviously stressful for him to move, or attempt to. It’s actually amazing that this job has even come up - he works in a specialised area and they are rare. It’s likely to be extremely competitive and although DP is genuinely one of the best at what he does, there are absolutely no guarantees and a lot of it is about who you know.
If he gets this job then we can stay put and all will be ok. If he doesn’t, he will have to move with his current role.
I can’t bear the idea of being apart but the idea of having no support and being launched into rented accommodation in an area I don’t know, a few weeks before having a baby is absolutely terrifying me. He’s said I could stay put and he would come back at weekend and try to be back in the week, if he doesn’t get this new job. He does tend to work late so in some ways it wouldn’t make massive difference but also I would be alone each night which would be hard.
On some level I think that’s best but on another level I think fuck we are supposed to be together, I need to get on with it. I’m just scared my mental health with deteriorate in a new place like that and everyday alone. It’s not like I have friends and family with me everyday here but it’s what I know and is safe and familiar.
Just don’t know what to expect with doing all this and what might be best. Grateful for any insight or opinion.