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Doesn’t want a relationship

17 replies

averagemom1 · 09/05/2022 07:35

Looking to see to others point of view,
ive been seeing this guy, went on dates, do relationship type things, chat all the time, he stays over but he just wants no strings attached and feel like I’ve got the wrong idea of things?

OP posts:
tobi21 · 09/05/2022 07:42

He's getting all the benefits of a relationship without the commitment and responsibilities. He's having his cake and eating it too

Aquamarine1029 · 09/05/2022 07:44

He wants everything on his terms, sex when he wants it with no commitment. Why are you allowing this if it's not what you want?

Moodycow78 · 09/05/2022 07:44

I'm not sure what your question is hon, he's said he doesn't want a relationship just a FWB I'd believe him, sounds like he's being honest. If you want the same and are happy with that great. If you want more, and it sounds like you do, I'd get out now, it'll mess with your head and will ultimately end messily x

Rainbowqueeen · 09/05/2022 07:46

Well if he doesn’t and you do then end it immediately. Don’t let him waste your time.
Also reflect back to see if you feel he misled you as that’s the impression I’m getting from your post. Then think about what you could do differently next time to avoid a time waster like him

Scabbyknackers · 09/05/2022 08:27

Sounds like he's being quite honest with you, he wants all the company, intimacy, someone to do nice things with rather than just straight up FWB who never leave the bedroom together but nevertheless, he doesn't want any commitment. I think you need to take what he says at face value and decide whether it suits you to carry on. Sounds like it doesn't.

Was he saying differently before? If so he's misled you.

DivorcedAndDelighted · 09/05/2022 09:51

It means he wants to be able to see other people ; that's what "no strings attached" means. If you don't want that then tell him you don't want to date or shag someone who's still seeing other people, so bye, you'll be looking elsewhere.

Ohsugarhoneyicetea · 09/05/2022 12:55

Frees him up in case someone 'better' comes along or he gets some more no strings sex offers. What do you want? That's what matters, and if he cant offer it, plenty more fish in the sea.

PumpkinsandKittens · 09/05/2022 13:00

Just don’t do what my sister did and hang around for 2 years hoping he will change his mind (he didn’t 😑)

AntarcticTern · 09/05/2022 13:03

He likes you but not enough to be exclusive with you.

Iamnotamermaid · 09/05/2022 13:03

So a sort of FWB plus extras type thing then with nothing more to offer. If you are happy with this stick with it, or stick with it until someone better comes along.

But he has been honest that he is not looking for a full on relationship, so don't try and pretend you are in one or it will become one.

Fluffycloudland77 · 09/05/2022 13:11

You want different things and he’s letting you know.

mamabeeboo · 09/05/2022 13:14

Ask yourself OP if you would be happy seeing him dating other people. Or talking /flirting/sleeping with other women? Do you want to be exclusive?

It's as simple as you both wanting different things. But you need to end it asap, especially before any "mistakes" happen.

altmember · 09/05/2022 13:15

He doesn't want the commitment of defining it as a relationship. Probably because he wants to keep his options open and jump ship as soon as someone 'better' comes along. You're not his Ms Right, just his Ms Right Now. Up to you if you're fine with that (if you're feeling the same)? Just don't go getting ideas about it developing into something, because you'll probably end up disappointed.

noborisno · 09/05/2022 14:10

What's your question?

Fuzzyhippo · 09/05/2022 14:29

I was seeing someone like this for a month, he said he wasn't ready for a relationship because of past trauma. I would've waited until he was ready but I was wasting my time with that one!

madasawethen · 09/05/2022 15:39

You're looking for a relationship. He isn't.

Time to dump him.

DenholmElliot · 09/05/2022 15:55

Where did you meet him?

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