I’m mid forties and very happily married. Dh genuinely fabulous person and two lovely dc. Good job I enjoy. However, I think I have a lot of unresolved trauma and hurt from my mid teens when my parents divorced in a horrible fashion. I think this trauma is now coming out. I have recently contacted an ex I went out with during that time and we have become close again. I have had several opportunities to reconnect with this person since we split but have never had the slightest notion to do that. Until recently. I don’t really understand why I have got in touch or what I want from it. Has anyone had counselling for similar issues that has helped them understand themselves more? Or even a dh who has had a mid life crisis and had counselling that helped?
I really want to understand my behaviour more. I know I need to end this reconnection and I intend to do that soon. I’m looking for reassurance that it can be helped with counselling, I guess.