How did you learn to cope with the OW running off with your husband?

[Greengoat2022]

NC for this.
I feel so ashamed to admit that after 5 years, I'm STILL eaten up by my ex husband running off with OW he was having an affair with.
I know we all slate OW in general, however, this one is quite something.
She 'dreamt of living in the UK' and in London (they've moved 6000 mile for her to be here)
She wanted a boy and girl as I have a boy and and girl (she got both)
She wanted her daughter's name to be Winter (my daughter's name is Summer)
She uses my part of the married name ?!?!!
They never had a proper wedding so she cut's and pastes headless bride photos she's taken off the internet and pretends they are her.
She now doesn't like London, so she wants to move 5 mins away from me in the country !!!!!! Next, she'll be moving into my shed !

Is this just weird or what?

I just want to move on from the hurt but every few months I hear back from family that she's up to something else.

They're moving near you... you have two kids with him, is that right? Isn't that a positive thing that he's going to be there to parent his children?

I'm not getting the 'bunny boiler' vibes personally, though the name thing is a bit odd, maybe she's always loved the name! It's normal for couples to want to move and she didn't drag him there presumably.

You need to tell family to stop trying to cause drama by telling you what they're up to (they, not she). It's not helping you move on.

She sounds as if she is threatened by you. She is trying to copy the life you had when she took it from you (along with him).

I dont think you get past it.

I get your upset op. Try and disengage.

You are letting her live rent free in your head. You know it's time to let go.