Heya
Just wanted some ladies advice/input. I think I came on a bit too intense with a guy and scared him off. Normally with guys I’ve chatted to and it fell off for whatever reason I end up crossing paths with them again or they swing back round and I wondered if it seemed likely in this scenario or not. I recognise he wasn’t interested and I was probably a bit intense/immature so I’d appreciate not being bashed for it.
To cut a long story short I was chatting to a guy for about 3 months we met up twice after about 2 months.
One day after We were chatting by text all day and towards the end of I asked if he wanted to meet up and he apologised and said he couldn’t that week as he was super busy. I just said no worries bla bla (he works two jobs) didn’t bother me
We chatted again later that week
I didn’t hear from him for a couple days so popped up to see how he was, we were talking about the weekend and I asked if he wanted to meet up
He said he couldn’t that week. I said no worries but if he didn’t want to at all or wasn’t feeling it that was cool too
He left me on read and I messaged (shouldnt have but hate having mixed messages or wasting time)
I said why entertain it at all if you aren’t bothered, no need to ignore me.
He responded saying he was confused as we hadn’t made plans that weekend so what did he entertain and he doesn’t understand what I mean by feeling it
I said sorry I thought by leaving it you were saying you didn’t want to etc. And I meant feeling it has in to meet up again. (I know at this point he’s not interested)
He said we’ve met twice and he was even more confused as how would he know if he was feeling it or not
I just went back saying don’t worry about it and left it.
He messaged saying could I clarify what I meant by feeling it
I was like look sorry for any confusion; I struggle with messaging a lot (we’d had no calls that week) I didn’t mean feeling it as a whole just in terms of meeting up again or not. I understand if he’s busy as we both are I just wondered where you were at.
He left me on read and I didn’t hear from him again for a few weeks so removed him as his hidden me from his socials and I just felt like he was waiting me to disappear and also if you were interested I’d have heard from him in that time.
This was a while ago but I’m kinda struggling to let it go. (Ridiculous I know) We had good chemistry and he’s a really lovely dude. (Seemed to be anyway)
Would it be at all possible me and him may cross paths again someday or him pop back up sometime and should I apologise? I know I need to work on my communication also, I’m going through a stage of self work and healing lately so I’m hoping that will help with the whole letting go thing.