Have you ever been attracted to someone but not dated them because you felt you could do better looks-wise?

[Anonanonon]

Just that really. Obviously we shouldn't date anyone we don't fancy - but has there ever been anyone who you felt an undeniable attraction or chemistry with but didn't go there because you felt you wanted to hold out for someone who was more aesthetically your "type"?

No, because once I have that spark with someone, I find them attractive, even if I know that conventionally they are not. They look beautiful to me. TBH anyone who would reject someone they connect with and like cos they are holding out for someone 'hotter' is a nob anyway.

No. If I'm attracted to them I'll date them and I don't care if they are good looking or not. I've never once thought I'm too good looking for someone . I think I'm punching with my husband and he thinks he's punching with me so it's nice. But I've gone out with gorgeous people who were dull and average people who were amazing.

If she's attracted to you and she's not shallow she will be interested in dating you.

I have a nerdy boyfriend who no one else finds attractive (before dating me no one had ever described him as handsome, good looking or sexy, despite being in 2 long term relationships in the past!). I'm in good shape and put a lot of effort into looking good, so there's a bit of a mismatch in how we look. It's enough of a difference that we get comments about it and I think we both get a bit embarrassed about that.

I also think that being a single parent can change your view of what you want in a partner as well. I wanted to be with someone kind and patient who would take on my kids as his own. Steady job, supportive, fun to be with, willing to help mop up my child's sick at 2 am 😆. I do need to be with someone I'm attracted to but I don't actually give a shit what they look like.