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Feel like he’s blaming me..,

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Starinthesky12 · 07/05/2022 10:41

Brief background. Saw a guy for a few months last year. He told me he and his ex split up nearly a year before we started seeing each other but he & ex had stayed friends. His step son had a baby a few months ago but he says he’s not allowed to see the baby as his ex (and all her friends) are annoyed with him as a result of him seeing me.
i haven’t replied to him but it seems completely over the top reaction to me..,
Any thoughts.

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Pinkbonbon · 07/05/2022 10:46

I don't understand, bas he just texted you this out of the blue? When you aren't even seeing him anymore?

AnneLovesGilbert · 07/05/2022 10:47

What’s he blaming you for?

pictish · 07/05/2022 10:51

I’m not sure here. Is this taking place now or a few months ago?

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Starinthesky12 · 07/05/2022 10:55

Sorry should have been a bit clearer!
We saw each other for a few months last year but still texted occasionally after it ended. In the mean time his step son had a baby and he’s said he’s not allowed to see the baby and his ex’s family and friends have turned against him because he went out with me.

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pictish · 07/05/2022 10:59

At the risk of sounding trite, can’t you just dismiss and ignore him?
It’s fuck all to do with you. Send him packing.

StephanieM17 · 07/05/2022 11:01

So what? This isn’t anything to do with you. Ignore. You don’t want to be pulled into this pointless drama.

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Starinthesky12 · 07/05/2022 11:01

@pictish haha, yes I know I should! I just have this horrible feeling that he was lying to me and want to confront him.

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pictish · 07/05/2022 11:48

Starinthesky12 · 07/05/2022 11:01

@pictish haha, yes I know I should! I just have this horrible feeling that he was lying to me and want to confront him.

Naaaah. This isn’t worth turning a hair over. Been and gone. Let them squabble amongst themselves. Don’t invite drama over for tea.

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Starinthesky12 · 07/05/2022 17:10

Definitely don’t want to drama but also can’t help feeling I’ve been lied to 😞

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Mintchocicechip · 07/05/2022 17:15

Exes are nightmares. My now ex was always letting his ex in between us. She would message him and he'd respond. I felt like I was taking her man. Was ridiculous they split 2 years before I even showed up. It's his fault. You are not responsible for his ex. He makes his grown ass man choices

chisanunian · 07/05/2022 17:27

By what stretch of the imagination could it possibly be your fault?

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Starinthesky12 · 07/05/2022 19:18

@chisanunian none! I can only assume he and his ex weren’t as split up as he said. Otherwise why on earth would it be a problem him seeing someone else?!

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