So, following on from an earlier thread which I removed due to some harsh and unkind comments. Very sensitive at the moment.
my DH had messaged another woman and met for coffee. Blah….
He is always out, drinking etc. I am happy at home, a home bird and we don’t have any common interests at the moment.
He wants us to work. To “let” my keep my wages to myself and not pay out 2/3 of mine on bills in future. We have no joint finance or accounts. I had suggested a joint everything.
He earns a lot of money 85-100k and I don’t (16k) although I work hard for minimum wage and studying to do better (late career change due to injury).
I made the decision to visit a fixed fee solicitor to get some advice if we divorce.
he was the loveliest chap.
basically, he was shocked about my contributions to the pot each month and how little money I have in comparison.He said to me that it’s financial abuse and was sorry for me.
His advice, sell the house and split the 200k equity
claim half of DH business
half of his pension.
At this point I would like to stay in our family home with DC until he is 18.
DC was born here.
Has anyone just got to keep the house and not gone there with a business and pension and spousal maintenance (worth a lot more if I go there).
Solicitor said it’s a battle with these cases but I should be away initially with around 250-270k to buy a house outright and also claim maintenance. He was really sad about my situation. Genuinely, and is not pushing for my business at all. He advised do a divorce online if it comes to it and he will answer questions free of charge.
or work on the marriage??? It is a long marriage.
I have booked in with a marriage guidance counsellor, mostly for my benefit and trust now he broke it.
none of this makes sense. Sorry