This is a huge red flag I know. When we first got together, I made a big effort to get along with his friends and family. But now we’ve been together over 4 years, I realise that I actively dislike most people in his life.
His adult daughter is rude and ignores me most of the time, she struggles to even say hello to me. He has pulled her up on this and she now manages to mumble a polite greeting but then will make any excuse not to have anything to do with me.
His friends are pretty ghastly too, they always make me feel unwelcome. Again he has addressed this but we have fallen into a default of just never socialising together. It seemed easier that way but it upsets me a lot.
I think it’s because they are all still friends with his ex wife and she has made it very clear of her need to remain queen bee.
It has reached a point where I am seriously considering ending the relationship because of how unwelcome I am made ti feel by people close to him. But otherwise we have a great relationship when it’s just us, and occasionally my DS when he is home from university. He gets on great with my friends and family so it feels really unbalanced that I don’t get on with his.