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Can i run this one past you please.

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Tolkienista · 06/05/2022 11:53

Two weeks ago my nephew got married, it was a beautiful day, i thoroughly enjoyed it. However, his mother, [my sister] i've always had a slightly strained relationship with. The phrase........"long after you've forgotten what somebody's said, you'll never forget how they made you feel" literally springs to mind. I always feel inferior in her company and that i can't be myself.

So this morning, i received a message from a relative in the US to say she'd seen all the wedding photos on FB..........[i'm not on FB, i left it over 3 years ago] but was surprised i wasn't on any of them, AIBU in my assumption that i wasn't photogenic enough or important enough to be included, or am i just making a mountain out of a molehill?

To be fair my sister did say on the day she liked my outfit. Weddings are really stressful events, especially with families. At work and with friends, i'm a completely different person, so much more confident and comfortable in my own skin, often when i'm around her, i recoil into myself.

Any thoughts would be gratefully appreciated.

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Watchkeys · 06/05/2022 12:05

This is your sister's drama, not yours. Just ignore it. Whether she's done it for effect or by accident doesn't really matter, because you know how she makes you feel already.

frozendaisy · 06/05/2022 13:41

Life is lived in the flesh and blood not the digital images.

You left Facebook

You would never have known about this accept via someone else.

You are now in a Facebook photo emotional dilemma. Which is why you left.

Keep being you moving forward and just being not worrying.

Tolkienista · 07/05/2022 22:52

Thanks for your comments, I'm moving on but I wish I had thicker skin. Really envy those who let things wash over them. I'm a good, hard working person but I need to clear my head of stupid negativity.

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Paperdolly · 07/05/2022 23:00

There’s a saying……Not my circus; Not my monkies. Let go and move on.

Hiddenvoice · 07/05/2022 23:01

I wouldn’t really think anything of it. My mum posted pictures of my wedding online and didn’t include all her siblings or even all of my siblings in the post. It wasn’t an intentional thing, it was more of just posting the pictures she liked the most and the ones she actually had.
I know it’s tough but I’d just forget it, you’re not on Facebook so would never have known about It.

spotcheck · 07/05/2022 23:02

I think your relative who passed this along is shit stirring.

DurhamDurham · 07/05/2022 23:06

The relative in the USA is trying to cause drama and chaos. Why would you even care that you're not on any FB pics when you aren't even on FB?

You enjoyed the wedding, had a nice day. Don't let the mischievous relative in the USA spoil that for you.

Tolkienista · 08/05/2022 22:56

Thanks for the latest comments..........feeling much more positive today and glad that I've not even been slight tempted to go back on FB. Got all the photos and videos I want and a number of messages saying how nice I looked, so that's honestly good enough for me.

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