Would this upset you?

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I have a friend who I rarely see due to distance but we message or talk on the phone every day, we are very close.
Lately I've noticed at any opportunity he gets he will make comments about my personality which have really hurt me. He told me I'm too stubborn, too uptight, and have a really nasty streak in me. I don't agree with any of this apart from.the being stubborn bit, none of my other friends have ever said anything ever, and surely if I was that bad I wouldn't have any? I do a lot for him but sometimes I say no and I think that's what he doesn't like. It's really shocked me that he feels that way as I've been accused of a lot of things but never those.

I've heard it said (on here probably) that you never really know a persons character until you say no to them, I'd be wary if I were you OP and I definitely wouldn't be taking his comments to heart

Regardless of whether he's right about your personality or not, it's a bit strange to point these things out regularly. He doesn't sound like a very good friend OP and it's okay to say that the friendship isn't for you anymore.

Why does it matter if it would upset anyone else, OP? Are you trying to find out if you're normal to have the response you're having?

What I fibra bit strange is that you are putting up with this behaviour and staying in contact daily when it is so easy to disengage with this person. You can tell him what you think and if he insists, just stop picking up the phone

I do a lot for him but sometimes I say no and I think that's what he doesn't like

what does he do for you?

Thank you. I just asked if it would upset anyone else because I can be very over sensitive and take things too personally sometimes. When I confronted him Iver it today he told me it was constructive criticism and I need psychological help.

And he does absolutely nothing for me so why I put up with his shit I really don't know!!!

A nasty streak? That's some accusation, have you asked what he means by that, give you some examples? If someone accused me of something like that they better be prepared to back it up

You do stuff for him and he does nothing for you?

He calls you stubborn when you choose not to do things for him.

He says you're uptight and need psychological help?

Why are you staying friends with this person?

Put mental as well as physical distance now between you. He is no friend to you. Do not allow yourself to be abused by a so called friend.

I would certainly stop communicating every day, at the least.

Block him and organise some therapy.

I can be very over sensitive and take things too personally sometimes

If you can be 'over sensitive', then there must be a level of 'sensitive' that's the right level. Otherwise there wouldn't be a boundary for you to cross into being 'over'.

Who sets the level, for you, of how sensitive you 'should' be? Who is in charge? Who makes the rules about what is the 'right' way for you to respond, emotionally, to things?

This.

Some men don't expect a woman to say no to them and they don't like it when we do. In their eyes, that makes us mean.

You're allowed to say no. That makes you someone with boundaries. I know it's hard when you realise that someone you believed to be a friend isn't, but this man isn't your friend.