Dreading the weekend

[Lonelyyetagain]

I feel so let down.

Yet again, DH has called to say he's got to work all weekend.

It's not his fault (he works in retail management with barely any staff; I work FT Mon-Fri) but once more when colleagues ask me what I'm doing at the weekend, I will smile & nod & say, 'Oh, not much.'

Because I have no plans. My friend has just cancelled on me for tomorrow night and frankly, I just feel so horribly lonely and disappointed.

I hate it. I have lots of people I'd consider friends but I'm no-ones priority. No one contacts me to ask if I'd like to meet up or do something fun. I seem to do all the chasing and organising and I'm sick of it.

What can I do?! I can feel my marriage sliding into a hole as we don't see each other and when we do, we're tired & irritable.

I'm a (generally) happy, fun & sociable person with no social life I've tried Bumble friends and have chatted with a few people but it's come to nothing so far.

Anyone else hate weekends or is it just me?!

Have you tried "Meet-up" ? There are loads of groups on there with all sorts of subjects like book club running club etc those are boring examples lol they have lots going on.

Join one of them and focus on an activity rather than on trying to find friends.

Why did your friend cancel your night out for tomorrow?

WI, voluntary work, U3A, local gardening club, choir - there must be something that interests you. Pick something yyou'd like to try and go from tthere.

Just wanted to add, I know that sinking feeling you get when people ask you what your plans are for the week-end.

Rather pathetically, i used to make things up - just instead of saying "actually i'm at home doing nothing all week-end". But not anymore, i've joined a few groups and i'm enjoying those now

Do something new, OP. Something just for you. Start to learn something (Tutorful.co.uk is good, or google your local college for an evening class), do something you used to like doing when you were 11 (old enough to decide what you liked, but young enough not to be fettered by adulthood), buy yourself something that'll enable you to create something, and then do a class in how to do it.

You'll accidentally meet people, it's bound to happen. But if you don't, you'll be a trumpet playing marathon runner who makes all their own clothes by this time next year (or something), and people will be drawn to you anyway, whilst you're at running club, or in the haberdashery shop, or doing a music performance.

Just make your life a tiny bit broader. Changes will come.