Am i wrong

[Charlie8877]

I broke up with my boyfriend a week maybe 2 weeks ago as I just wasn’t happy, he got to comfortable and would speak to me like sh* and treat me like sh*. That day broke my heart because he can also sometimes be the best person in the world, so loving and so caring. I swore to him that day that i would never come back. He wouldn’t leave me alone, messaging me for a week. He really made me feel like he knew what he needed to change and promised me he would do it. So I gave him one last chance to prove it and I went back to him. Yesterday morning (4 days after we got back together) I saw on his Twitter that he had liked 53 (yes i counted lol) pics of naked, literally porno pics of girls & 20 or so normal selfies of these girls. This is one problem we NEVER had in the relationship, not once has he ever done anything like this! I sent him every single picture and went crazy lol. He said he did it the night i left and the night after. He says it’s not a problem because we weren’t together when he did this, but every time he did it he felt guilty afterwards and would hate himself, but proceeded to do the same again the next day? I still feel like he’s betrayed me and my
heart has been ripped out. I spent those days being heartbroken, and he was doing that. But he’s making me feel like it’s not a problem. Am i wrong for feeling like this? I’ve not even been able to go into work, i haven’t moved out of my room, i can’t stop comparing myself
to these girls. Was i not doing it for him? Was I 😓not enough?

I know men watch that stuff and whatever but he always promised me he understood and wouldn’t do it and i made it clear from the start that that isn’t something I’d ever be comfortable with.

You are not wrong, you set your own standards.
You need to block him and move on, don’t stalk him.

Don't ever think you were not enough. That is monumentally shit of him.

But he’s making me feel like it’s not a problem
Right, so he messed up big time, and is blaming you for being hurt by it.
Of course its a problem. And he couldn't even wait a few weeks to start looking up naked women.

Honestly, think back to why you finished in the first place and then reinforce that with this.
You are well rid of him. Throw this one back.

You broke up with him for very good reasons then you fucked up and took him back. Clearly, a mistake. Dump again and block this time. You can do far better.

There are much better men out there. Go and find one. Leave this loser.

If you have a problem with it, why do you/he think he's got the right to tell you there isn't a problem?

That's like you telling him you've got a headache, him saying 'No, you don't, actually', and you posting here to say 'Am I wrong to feel like I have a headache?'

Things that are uncomfortable for you are uncomfortable for you. Anybody who tries to tell you they shouldn't be is somebody who disrespects your feelings. And people who disrespect your feelings are to be avoided. That's the only boundaries lesson you ever need: stay away from anyone who doesn't respect how you feel.

You'll never stop a man watching porn or looking up pictures of naked women, even if they say they will. If it's a deal breaker it's a deal breaker. He did it when you split, if that's true then so what.

Personally it's the treating you like shit you shouldn't put up with, but my advice is either deal with men looking at pictures/porn or don't, but you'll never know until you find out for the next time again. Also a man needs to be man enough to say 'I'm not going to stop doing it, so leave if you do t like it'

Also, if it's not a problem because you weren't together, why was he feeling guilty?

He's just throwing all the 'forgive me' tricks at you, even when they contradict each other.

He's showing you he's still a shit, you can do better than accept it.