Stonewalled

[Boppa12]

I'm numb. I'm lost. My husband of 27 yrs told me he didnt love me and wanted to leave in the oct after an argument which we cant remember was about. I stayed out his way and plodded on thinking he was in the huff. Then lockdown happened.
We have 4 kids and hes stonewalled me for past 2 and half yrs.
I now feel or have nothing.
I've just today wrote him a letter to say have the house. Have the kids.
I'm numb.
I just feel I'm going mad now.

You need immediate support. Have you friends you can talk to in person?

Have you had suicidal thoughts? You need to call someone like the Samaritans, if so.

Don’t give him that letter. Don’t walk away from your house and kids. You need support. Have you got friends and family who can help you?

Fight for what is yours. Don’t let his horrible behaviour ruin your life any longer.

Fight for your kids and your home and your life.

Now is the time to step forwards into your own energy and act. Protect yourself. Direct your anger outwards and make positive change.

Reach out to friends, and call the Samaritans, and source a therapist, and read every self help book that calls to you. Also a solicitor would be a good idea to discuss separation properly. Take practical steps. Eat well. Drink water. Parent yourself. Parent your kids.

Fuck him! Don’t allow another person to determine your own life.

You can do it.

Thanks for the input. Our mutual friend, mainly mine came last week and I ushered her through and said we have something to tell you. He said we have split up, drifted apart and our friend was oh I'm so sorry but it happens etc etc.
I suppose I put him in this position to hear him speak!
We never drifted. And he has stonewalled me for too long.
I cant even reach out to explain and too messed up with it all.
The damage was not his words but how I've been treat afterwards.
I feel nothing for anything now. X