This morning DD16 has disclosed her BF was emotionally abusive - any recommendations for books that might help us both?

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She’s out of it now (I think). Turns out she went back to him several times and didn’t tell us. She’s disclosed more and more as she is distancing herself, but I want to give her to tools to deal with this now, spot this sooner if it happens again and boost her self confidence. I now suspect this may be the root of the eating disorder we have been battling with the ED clinic since last year.

(I have also posted on teenage parenting board - I would like resources aimed at teenagers if possible)

The below website gives some info on young people and abusive relationships, a bit light on info but it has some links that may be helpful. Good luck.

www.childrenssociety.org.uk/information/young-people/advice/teenage-relationship-abuse

www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/

Not a book, but saved my self esteem.

Please direct her to the Childline website www.Childline.org.uk

She can look at the resources about healthy relationships (and eating disorders) and she can talk to a counsellor on-line or on the phone. Counsellors are not just there to talk about current abuse/immediately difficult issues but are also there to help young people become informed and process their feelings.

The places I have cried in public by Holly Bourne is a great fiction read

Even my non reading niece devoured it

It's about an abusive relationship between teenagers

Thank you so much @yousawthewholeofthemoon , @Watchkeys and @Theoscargoesto
She went through the websites posted straight after school and she says they were useful and that she’s going to go back to them again. She has a psychologist through the ED clinic - I’m going to email her tonight and update her. We have our regular family meeting with her tomorrow but DD and I think DD needs a meeting with her alone - I’m going to ask for that. DD doesn’t want to discuss in detail in front of me, which is fair enough.
I’ll buy that book @Butterfly1066 She likes reading, so hopefully it will help her make sense of things.

That sounds positive!