How often is normal to be in touch?

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I had a couple of really nice dates with a Swiss guy 38/M - he is a professor and is also linked to a Uni abroad. He stays next door to my best friend from University but I also matched with him on Bumble. He also goes to same yoga class as me so I knew him before the swipe.

both dates ended with kissing and I loved both of them. He seems nice.

A couple of weeks ago he went away to do some work abroad and he gets back on the 17th. He says he wants to see me when he is back :-)

He sends me two or three messages most days - either in evening or lunch time. All fairly thoughtful. He has never been someone who messaged alot even when we first matched.

does this all sound like normal amount of texting for this stage of relationship? And normal
amount of messaging?

Yes, sounds very normal to me. You're messaging daily and have a plan to meet when he's back in the country. Keep your powder dry and don't get too carried away, keep dating others, I wouldn't get too deep into super intimate topics via text message but you can have a brief chat about your days.

Thats excatly what we are doing TBH.

I am dating one other now after a very odd expierence with a strange man this weekend - thankfully that ended 😂 He has been eliminated

I see it as a green flag that he is not texting constantly to be honest. Have an expierence where they were messaging constantly and he was just after sex.

Yeah, frequent intense texting can lull you into believing you have some kind of deep and meaningful connection when in reality either of you could be doing the same to six other people at the same time (nothing wrong with that but it's easy to get too involved too quickly with text). Better to leave one another wanting more and save the bonding for in person, make him put some effort into seeing and spending time with you and work for your attention and information about your life.

I've fallen into the lengthy diatribes about my life and trauma within the first few weeks style of texting and it never ends well haha.

Yes that's quite a lot Id say.

Its so true. And my God - this guy from last weekend was a bit like that TBH.
2nd date he was telling me about how he wants to report a family member for a historical sexual abuse allegation. I mean come on?!

one of my friends is getting married to a guy who messaged her every couple of dates 1/2 messages for the first month of two. She said it was a welcome change to the anxiously attached weirdos she had met on online dating 😂😂

Never get to know a man though texts alone

it sounds very sensible to me to be honest !

We each set our own normal. Some people hardly ever send messages unless it's something urgent. Some send them every 5 minutes. Both are fine, if both people are happy with it.

It's not about normal. It's about preference. So, if you're happy, that's good, because his 'normal' is compatible with your 'normal'.

There is no overall 'normal'.