Hi I posted this on AIBU also as I’m anxious to get some advice please as I don’t want to ruin a relationship I’m in at the moment if I am being unreasonable. I haven’t dated in 20 years as I was married but recently separating. We had been living together but living separate lives for almost a year. During this time I don’t know if he dated or not and I really had no interest in dating until an ex from all that time ago got back in touch. We just talked for a long time and then met up and next thing we’re dating. I didn’t throw it in my “husbands” face Or never told my children about it. I have a daughter of 17 and a son aged 12. My ex and I could never make it work all those years back because he had an awful lot of issues from childhood and so couldn’t commit to any relationship. He has since dealt with all that in therapy. We always had a brilliant time together though and got on really well. This hadn’t changed when we met up again. Everything was lovely until he decided he wanted more and he wanted us to be together full time and not have me living with my husband even as “friends” so I set about making the separation legal and final. Everything with my new partner was fantastic and still is to be honest. He is kind and so affectionate and loving towards me which is something I never got from my ex husband. We are all still only in our early 40s though and lately my new partner has been cancelling seeing me so he can go out with his friends!!! 3 times it has happened now. We don’t get to see one another a lot at the moment as ex husband is being very hard to deal with regarding the house and children etc so I would have thought any chance we had to spend together my partner would take it. If I get angry over him cancelling on me he gets depressed and doesn’t sleep for the whole night and acts as if I’ve ruined his life! I’m absolutely baffled as to what to do. AIBU in getting angry at him or is this what dating is like now? Should I just accept it and understand from his point of view that he needs to have a life while waiting for me to be able to be with him full time. He’s dating changed that much? I don’t want to lose him but I dont want to be treated like a mug either especially with what I’m going through at the moment. I just expected him to support me better maybe. Thanks for reading xx