Dumped by text

[Taleas0ldastime]

My fiancee dumped me bybtext a few days ago. We've been together over 4 years. She did this a couple of years ago but we stayed in touch, texting and talking every day and eventually got back together after a few months. This time I know I need to go NC or we'll just be stuck in this cycle.
I'm not really sure why she finished things, her reasons aren't really making sense...she keeps contradicting herself so I think there's probably something going on that I don't know about.
I just feel broken. We were planning a life together, a wedding, a future and she just seems so flippant in the way she has discarded it all. Last time we split up my mental health spiralled dangerously and I'm so concious of trying to stop that happening again.

Awe I’m so sorry that’s a really horrible way to be broken up with, especially in such a serious relationship. It sounds like you should definitely go NC and delete her social media etc for your own mental health.
be kind to yourself and allow yourself time to grieve. Anyone that can treat someone like this though is not a good catch

@Savoretti thank you, I've deleted her social media and archived all of our chats amd messages so i can't read over them or see when she's online. I don't understand how someone can be so cold. She hasn't even asked or considered my childrens feelings in all this amd they adored her. Their dad passed away last year so they have had so much loss already and now she just walks out of their lives as well. I'm as devastated for them as for me.

Ah gosh if there are children involved that is even harder. I think if it were me much as I may love that person I would have to look at them in a different way wondering how they could be so unkind and as you say cold. It is absolutely fine to end a relationship if you feel it is not working, but there is a mature and kind way to do it and this is not it.
i am sorry you are hurting so bad. I am a few weeks down the break up line - albeit in a less hurtful way - and the pain does begin to ease. Just hang in there and concentrate on your kids - am sure they provide lots of the love you need at the mo 💕