Spent the last 18 months with a man who was bringing his ex along for the ride. He was very convincing at times that he was over her. He had a nice story about why he wouldn't go back there. He owns more than half the blame and sings her praises but says there's stuff about her he didn't like and that's why they wouldn't ever work out. His reasons for staying in touch were after all the anger stopped they just wanted to be friends.
Well she's never left him alone since we got together. He's of course choose to message her back and he's argued with me more than once that he's not going to be controlled by me about who he can talk to. She's been disrespectful about me more than once and seems to think she has the right to still put heaps of kisses and digs at me to him. He's allowed it.
I am not proud but I checked his phone once and only once a month ago. He was very much messaging her about the good times and saying to her he was crying thinking about it. he's been messing with my head all the way through. Slagging her off Then Defending her. Saying it's mature they are still friends. Stories have changed. He told me he had councilling after her to get over her. Then months later he said he's never spoken to a councillor. He has twisted so much. I think the times they were irritated at eachother he would act different. Like once he sent me two quotes about exes and not comparing them to the new person and how exes left him with a personality disorder and a drink problem.
There's been a lot of dodgy abuse and games going on and it's hitting me hard (I ended it 2 weeks ago) I'm beginning therapy this week but I just can't get over it.
I started keeping a diary when I felt it was getting abusive and I read it back this morning and I'm now horrified at how much more obvious it is to me now.