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My partner drinks too much

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Luby34 · 01/05/2022 22:18

I've been dating a new man for 3 months who seems really nice and caring. I'm enjoying his company apart from his unhealthy lifestyle. He is very tall, 6ft8 (201cm) but says that he can drink up to 15 pints because of his height but I hate it when he has more than 3. He says because of his height it means he can drink quickly- which I think is ridiculous. He doesn't get drunk with that amount but he has gained a lot of weight because of beer (1 pint = 200 calories), he has already had 2 cardiac arrests and he has asthma... I feel he isnt looking after himself. He doesn't appear down, he just drinks because he likes the taste and a chance to unwind. I definitely don't mind him having a beer now and again to relax or socially with friends, but I reckon he consumes at least 30 pints per week... and I hate it...i hate it because he is not looking after his health. Yesterday he met my family for the first time and we went out to a restaurant for a meal where he had 10 pints! How can i get through to him, he is being stubborn using his height as an excuse?

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LadyLolaRuben · 02/05/2022 08:50

Ahhh OP, you thought you had met someone special and then he showed you who he is. I'm older than you by a couple of years and I know what you mean about using the term boyfriend at our age. But even the term boyfriend, only 12 weeks in, is still a loose term. You're dating him really and this is who he is - that's what dating is for - to get to know them. You've see everything you need to see. Don't invest any more of your life with him as you're delaying meeting someone much more suitable. I totally get how disappointing this is but break it off sooner rather than later, the block him x

TheClitterati · 02/05/2022 09:17

Unless you want to be in a relationship with an alcoholic who is in denial and with all the complications that come with that you need to end this relationship now.

And if you do choose to be in a relationship with an alcoholic, I think maybe sit down and have a really good think about why you'd make a decision like this. You deserve a lot better.

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