I heard the term "Wendy" on here today.
I think I have been Wendied by a man.
I know I have behaved foolishly so, please be kind to me.
No "You should have known's"
I was a shut-in for about four years due to anxiety and depression, and during that time I got diagnosed with Asperger's.
Ayear ago, an online ex-friend encouraged me to get out and about again, he turned out to be sexually exploitative online so I have no communicated to him. I told him I was sexually inhibited and he invalidated me, anyway, he's gone.
I live within walking distance from town so a coffee shop at my end of town seemed the best place to go.
I bumped into a woman I know who was going to the same place with some others I had lost contact with and she invited me.
There were two men and one woman I did not know, I will cut out some of the irrelevant stuff.
I met the new people and one of them seemed to have things in common with me.
He told me he only liked talking one to one, as well, and put on a front in groups.
He seemed shy and didn't know the rest of the group as well as me.
He told me the online guy was just after sex and should not have asked me about it if he knew I was inhibited.
Anyway, I got a crush on him, we talked on messenger, non sexy, about stuff we are interested in and he understands my social difficulties.
He has drug resistant temporal lobe epilepsy aggravated by stress, and says no one else but his exes and family knows, not even his friend of 35 years, lets cal the friend "E" - he has been on holidays with this friend.
He did an Asperger's test and scored high.
We had a good summer, last year, meeting for coffee, I thought I was getting used to socialising again.
We got together really slowly, we went to the pub and he didn't lay a hand on me.
A few weeks later we weren't again and he planted a lovely thick kipped kiss on my lips and ever so slowly, we got more and more sexual, no sex, just me sending him sexy pictures at his request.
Once he knew he wasn't getting sex, things basically turned sour, he started ignoring me in the group.
He got me nothing for Christmas.
We used to have "Arguments" over text and I felt gaslighted and he used to have seizures after them, so I felt guilty.
We "split up" over Xmas.
A friend from years ago who I dont see asked me to google him and I found he lives with a woman, (naive I know, I didnt want to look a stalker)
One day, outside the Coffee shop there was E, him, and a woman from the group, he offered to buy everyone a coffee but me, and I went mad and said some horrible things which I have since apologised for.
Then I saw one of our other friends, let's call him "J" my ex has got increasingly friendly with him over the autumn and winter and he talked to J obviously ignoring me, not paranoia, talking to him about football, he isn't even interested in football as much as J.
J was not there the day I was excluded when he offered to buy coffees.
J now does not speak to me, shouted at me, refused to explain why he is angry with me.
X just says I pin$$ed him and J off, so am being slandered and I don't know what the slander is and I have lost confidence in meeting new people as I am so naive at 55 and don't want any further abuse as I have had enough in my life.
I stay in bed half the week.