Please reassure me I've done the right thing by ending it

[inneedofconvincing]

I feel a bit juvenile for writing this but I could do with the reassurance/a handhold.

Ended things with my boyfriend of a few months this weekend after a week or so of deliberation. Neither of us was technically in the wrong and it ended very amicably but after the initial excitement of being in a new relationship wore off, it just didn't feel quite right. I love a kiss and a cuddle and a chat in bed and I realised that although he was wonderful at the other things, I was never going to get that and the thought of spending potentially the rest of my life without that just made my heart sink.

I've read back on the list I made of reasons to end it (that in itself is enough, surely) but I'm sitting here on my own on a Sunday evening after a lonely Bank Holiday feeling incredibly sad and wishing I could be sat on the sofa with him under a blanket watching mindless TV. But that's not enough, is it?

I know it's better to be happy and single than in an unhappy relationship but bloody hell, I'm tired of pretending that I don't want to settle down with someone and have a happy little life together.

Being sad when a relationship ends is normal, because you obviously liked him enough to start with. But it wasn’t right for you so you did the right thing. You just need to start making plans with friends, gym etc so you have plans and aren’t just at home over thinking. You’ll be fine op and now you have the chance to meet the partner that does meet your needs. Good luck and you never know who is around the corner!

I think the fact that you found yourself thinking about it for a week prior shows you've made the right move. If a relationship is right for you, you don't tend to spend time contemplating how to end it.

How old are you Op?

What were the other reasons for ending the relationship?

Was he completely adverse to kissing/cuddling/chatting in bed?

Thank you @Lollypop701 and @Lillibarr - it's really kind of you to take the time to reply and make me feel better about it. You're both right, something just wasn't quite right and I think I've been mistaking sadness for regret, I need to focus on other things now. Honestly wasn't expecting to feel this sad!

@Musttryharder2021 I'm 29, I know this post probably makes me sound really immature, but I genuinely am just very sad that things are over. Other reasons were him being on his phone a lot when we were in bed/on a walk/out and about, him getting "comfortable" in the relationship very quickly, starting off really cuddly and affectionate and then pulling away sometimes when I tried to kiss/hug him, so I stopped instigating because I felt rejected. Not necessarily bad or deliberately unkind things but when I did try to bring these things up he got very defensive and said they were part of who he is.

@ReadyToMoveIt not completely averse to cuddling/hugs/talking in bed but quite often he'd go straight on his phone as soon as he woke up/got in bed so it made it quite hard to figure out if he wanted sex. We went 4 days without kissing because he doesn't really like it.

I didn't leave without trying to discuss things first but he was quite adamant that that was just "who he was". Some stuff I could have worked around but I wouldn't want to make someone change elements of themselves/force them to make physical contact with me when they didn't want to. But I just bloody love a cuddle.

From that OP you did the right thing. I think a lot of women wouldn't be happy with that level of disengagement