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Sibling disrespect

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Jsummertime · 01/05/2022 18:48

I am close to 50 and moved back to my town. I was away 13 years. I have one brother, 3 sisters. They are all married middle class with kids I am single no kids. I am considered disabled from a fall so my hands do not function but not getting hired anywhere. We also have a mother in a nursing home. We were under stict covid rules 2 years. When I moved by belongings never came so I have to replace everything. I am really alone. Most friends moved away or at too busy with work and family. So as soon as I came one sister started raging at me in her car. Also stating my other sister helped me move in and I a not grateful. She sees me as a bum. Shes had a good job her whole life and married young. Bit she had cancer a few times. I ended up sick and both ffered to come help seperately. She gets over here ragging again saying make more effort! Your place is a mess! I never even invited her here she offered. She said when I was sick my that sister flew there and told her Im a slob! I had cancer and a pain syndrome and live alone! If I tell the other sister they run to defent each other. My brother cut me off since I returned. I feel like telling her off but I kept silent because she was quite sick since I arrived had a surgery. My other sister wanted to cut me off before Xmas just because of how i think about covid. So now that sister who was sick has no idea why I rarely contact her. She had said i will throw you from the car when I first came! Total abuse to me. If I tell her the reason she will flip and others will get involved against me. I feel like leaving this town by summer.

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TedMullins · 01/05/2022 18:53

There must be more of a back story here. I’m assuming you’ve never had a close relationship with your siblings? Was it covid that caused a fallout? Either way, they’re not bringing anything positive to your life so I think moving away, trying to make new friends and having no more to do with them sounds like a good idea

Elfsumflowerpig · 02/05/2022 05:50

Your family sound horrible Flowers.
Can you get support from somewhere else eg. old friends, community group, church group? Is there any reason you want to stay in this town?

Jsummertime · 04/05/2022 14:22

Thanks. Hard to believe at one point we all got along. There is also little work. The issue stems way back as mum always favored them over me as they are more educated and older than I am. My dad never did this he treated us all equal but he passed away 20 years ago. We also see our mum we were banned for 4 months in a home. The eldest sister who was a manger and controlling type most of her life controls the schedule. She thinks I should go often 'because you dont work" and the ones who work 'should go less'. The ironic thing is they all have cars I do not! Imagine this line of thinking! And shes the sneaky one she will email me never calls me. Now they are stirring gossip behind my back to mum that 'she never calls us! She and husband came to get a red chair so I pushed it out to the hallway so they cannot enter my apt to critique that its messy! I had an injured left arm in bad pain 2 months!

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Jsummertime · 04/05/2022 14:28

Not really its where I grew up and I wanted to spend time with mum.

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whumpthereitis · 04/05/2022 19:02

‘Because of how I think about covid’

would be interested in the backstory tbh.

SailingNotSurfing · 04/05/2022 19:24

How do you think about Covid, OP? Are you an anti-vaxxer or someone who thinks it doesn't really exist? Because I could see that kind of attitude causing disruption in a family.

Maybe you should concentrate on visiting your mum and leave the rest of the family to get on with their lives.

Jsummertime · 04/05/2022 20:11

Its more than just covid. Its how I think politically as well. Some watch the msm and its propaganda mostly.

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