Bit gutted that I have no parents to confide in

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Mum is dead and even when she was alive found it hard to comfort me. Dad is preoccupied with his girlfriend and her family. There is no point talking to him about bad things that are happening as today he just said "whatever."

Just feel really gutted that i don't have a parent who gives a shit really or at least someone who knows how to comfort his own dd.

He finds it much easier to support his girlfriend's adult dd which stings.

I am so sorry. My mum died 5 months ago. My Dad isn’t with anyone new or anything, but I see how he worries when I try and talk to him. Seeing him worried and upset hurts even more.

it’s really lonely. I can’t imagine how hard it must be in your situation where he isn’t interested but is in someone else’s children.

I am sorry this is happening to you.

Sympathies, OP. I had the same, but the other way round - Dad died young, Mum wasn't interested. It's really hard when all your friends can take their parents' support for granted.

Eventually I met a really supportive partner, who has helped massively. I hope the same happens for you (if that's what you want)

I'm the same as @MissLucyEyelesbarrow my dad died young and my mum doesn't give a shit, she only has time for other family members. It stings, yes, but you have to accept its unlikely to change. I hope you can find someone else to support you emotionally as going looking for it in the wrong place only leads to repeated hurt disappointment. Good luck x

From about the age of 16 I never really consulted my parents, asked their advice or got real support from them. I never thought they would have anything useful to say. But I've relied on some extremely good friends who have been there, cared for me and understood me through all the difficult and trivial times of my life. I really don't feel I've missed out. My parents loved me and I them. But my friends have always been on my level and had the relevant wisdom and judgement.

Don't waste your energy on saying what if, should've, would've, could've.

Yes, I no longer have my mum and dad is more occupied with DSB and children from his second family. So I have no parents to talk to either and it makes me a bit sad.

I have friends i can be honest with but end up holding a lot in really.

I'm sorry Op. A lot of us in a similar situation. My Df died young & mum only interested in my sibling. It's hard but not unusual. Do you have any friends who could give some emotional support, or even just vent to?
Ultimately if your parent is unwilling to offer any support, take a huge guilt free step back, expect nothing & offer nothing if/when they want something from you.

I am so sorry for your loss, OP, but as far as I can tell parents are the very last people most of us would choose to confide in. That's what friends are for.

Haven't been in contact with my dps for 20 years. I do however share woes with my ddogs!! Poor things must get fed up..
Sorry you are having a rubbish time op.

I guess dad and I do talk about superficial things which is fine. I don't think he can handle it when I'm upset though.