I split up from my boyfriend 2 weeks ago. We had been Rocky for a couple of weeks before that. Our relationship has been hard work. He told me pretty early on his ex was still his "friend" they don't have kids but we're together 9 years. The relationship went bad for several reasons. There was another woman involved at the end and she was caught up on the middle of their split and lots more drama happened. He has depression and a short temper. No family around anymore and has a tendancy to fall out and cut people off. He acts lovely to strangers.
He met me two years later after the ex and he was clear they'd never ever get back together. But over the course of the last couple of years she's never backed off in terms of texting him..she will message him how's you and get into a conversation. He would be a mixture of bitter and negative about her. Then he would defend if I told him they had a strange connection. It never added up. In terms of her reaction to him moving on she's had nothing nice to say about us. Or me. She has openly told him she watches my Facebook and she has made digs towards me. He eventually stopped telling me if she had communicated after I got fed up and was ready to walk.
During in our relationship I was good to him. He injured himself badly at work and had to come out of work for 6 months. It was impossible living off his £650 (for him I don't live with him) I leant him a fair bit of money and he's paid quite abit back and I'm awaiting on £500 this week that he says he will pay. I bought all his food. I walked his dog when he couldn't. I have helped him around his house and done all I could.so 4 weeks ago when I saw sneaky messages to his ex saying he was thinking of the memories my heart sank. I remember shaking at her name flashing up on his screen because just days before he had convinced me they hadn't spoke for 4 months. He'd left the room so I pulled down the notification and saw an affectionate message to him with kisses.
A week later I was willing to talk to him about it but he flew into a rage and kicked me out. A few days later he wanted me to talk to him but he was blaming me for constant questions every other month and never believing him that she's no threat to me. I realised he was taking me for granted and refusing to adjust his contact with her so I said I couldn't deal with this anymore.
He's now spreading rumours about me being crazy and stalking.
I've tried to communicate with him as his passport and various other things are being stored at my house. Plus he owes me money. He finally sent me an email regarding the money but has ignored my reply asking about his things.
I'm just hurt after me spending so much time,money and effort on him all he's got to sayjs I'm mad! I'm not mad. He has lent on me massively and the relationship was not balanced at all.
I start with a therapist properly Tuesday but I can't get over how he's turned on me. I can't even begin to tell the story on here. But I'm looking for support from people who have had similar.
I find people have more understanding of these situations when they have experienced it themselves. So I'm looking for people to talk to who have been there