Don’t want to be on my own anymore

[Callie001]

Sorry for the long post but here goes……
Im 42 and have a 10 year old daughter. My ex Hubble left me 3 years ago as he had an affair and is still with the same person now. It took me about 10 months after he left to start dating again and I’ve had a couple of very short term relationships since but they weren’t right and I finished them. My daughter is my number 1 priority but when she is away at her dads I would love to meet someone and start a new relationship. I’ve had several friends who have too separated with there partners but every single one of them has moved on to happy long term relationships apart from me and it’s really starting to get to me. All I can think is what is wrong with me and what have I done wrong. My self confidence is getting lower and lower by the day and I fear I will be on my own forever. My friends keep saying don’t worry Prince Charming will be round the corner and if I hear that one more time I might scream. I know they only mean well and they must be sick of hearing me moan about being single but it’s really starting to get to me and I don’t think I’m good enough anymore. I’ve tried a couple of the dating apps but I must have an idiot magnet and that’s all I get. It really pulls my self confidence low and I feel it’s just not for me. I took my daughter to Disney recently and although we had a fab time I really miss being in a family unit and it upset me in a few occasions. I so desperately want to be happy again but I just don’t think I’m good enough and constantly think who would want me. Please someone tell me it will get better x

I'm probably the wrong person to reply as I've been there and given up! Honestly, it's the most content I've felt. No pressure to find someone. I'm finally finding me. I'm older than you but I don't worry too much about the future. I figure I'll meet someone in the natural course of events, or not. I'm not hanging my life on it. I don't care how loved up or how long my mates have been married. This is my life.

I’m 44 and a single mum to a DC. Yeah I’ve given up too. OLD is shit. I’ve spent time cultivating my interests, travelling, seeing friends, and just being by myself. I’m the happiest I’ve been (physically, mentally, emotionally) in a long time. Although it hurts, I’ve come to terms I may not meet anyone again. And that’s ok. I don’t believe another person can make us happy; we need to find contentment within ourselves. It isn’t what you want to hear, I know, but it’s a process to releasing that. It’s taken me 4 years to think fuck it - I’ll make my own life. I miss being held and touched and having a lovely man to myself but it’s ok. Life is short and uncertain and full it with the things you love.

I was single for 2.5 years between exdh and dh. My advice would be to try to be happy with what you have enjoy your life with your daughter, family and friends but be open to meeting people, especially through friends/work and maybe even go on the odd date from chat sites too just try not to pin too much on it. .

Op, I think if you want a relationship, you need to be in it to win it with online dating. My ex met someone within a month of us breaking up and its been on/off for 4 years now. Me just a handful of short lived things. You can go the other way and also accept being alone (I often wonder this). I think there is a middle ground, by dipping your toe in rather making it the be all and end all. I feel for you, I miss that family unit too at times.

Listen to @Walkingalot and @Milomonster , OP...

finally finding me. ... I figure I'll meet someone in the natural course of events, or not. I'm not hanging my life on it.

I’ve come to terms I may not meet anyone again. And that’s ok. I don’t believe another person can make us happy; we need to find contentment within ourselves.

When I hear 'I'm happy with my dc during the week, I love my life, I just find weekends lonely' that's not 'love' or 'a relationship' you need, it's company with the option for cuddles.
Join a group that meets on weekends, get out and do a sport on the lonely weekends or head to a friendly bar, do YOUR own thing and you'll attract someone who is doing the same... then you can do it together.