To feel like it's me.

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Currently going through horrendous turmoil in my marriage. Husband literally changed overnight, he's being cold, I massively suspect OW and want him to just admit it. It's my third ltr. I always land up getting hurt.
I'm a graduate and supported him hugely to getting him where he is now, supporting study etc.
I feel awful and just don't know what to do. I honestly thought he would never hurt me but the way he's being towards me is vile. If I didn't know better its like he has had a brain injury.
I never thought he would ever be the cause of such pain.

You can't be expected to live like this. Ì suggest you bite the bullet and have a real conversation with him. I would trust your instincts with this
..it sounds like there is something going on. Good luck

It's weird, isn't it, how cold and cruel they can become overnight when it's an affair (or a putative one). I think you have to assume that this is what is going on, and make appropriate plans, because he sure as hell will. Keep one step ahead and think of your finances.

Trust nae fucker.

Except your solicitor ...

And I'm really sorry btw. Been there myself

I have tried to talk to him he won't engage.
All my family and friends say that he is the last person they ever thought would do this. He was always so loving and caring and literally he treats me like I don't exist and snapping at me over silly things.

He's never going to admit it. Would you be content to leave without knowing?

Please don't put up with this it is cruel and unnecessary behaviour from him. Tell him to leave if he thinks so little of you. You deserve to be happy not treated like dirt xx

You owe him neither time nor consideration or a relationship.

A relationship should add to your life, not subtract from it, so you minus him equals improvement.

It's not easy, it may take time, but tell him it's over and begin prepping for one to leave the house if mortgaged or if rented, end lease and move out.

Why did you feel you had to state that you are a graduate? That stood out to me. Yes ok you've supported him in his studies but are they not to graduate level? Is it relevant? Not being picky, but you seem to think this is important.
Sorry to say but when people act out of character, it's usually because they are deflecting some other behaviour. Could be an affair, gambling, debt, drugs.
Bide your time or leave.

You need to get out. You don't need a conversation you just tell him what's happening. Or leave and let the solicitor do it

How u getting on opx