Children's Dad out of the Country

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Do you think he should have told me,his exw just in case anything happened the kids bearing in mind that he is not answerable
To me or anyone else?
I know that he is trying to hide money at the moment and has told our children not to tell me about his wallet full of cash ( from his new undeclared as yet business) and this is his third sun holiday on as many months.
He is also withholding money for medical
And education bills for the kids so I see why he wouldnt t want me to know about his lifestyle but is it unreasonable to expect him to let me or the kids know?

Anyone please?

I've no interest where the children's father is. He is not accountable to me. If there was an emergency with the children I would notify him but wouldn't expect him to do anything he bearly parents when he does have the children. If he is out of the country then there is little he can do

As for the money I'm sure you are Perusing this legally.

In all honesty where he is is none of your concern.

Regarding finances I would just keep pursuing with any updated knowledge you have.

He doesn't have to keep you abreast of his social outings. Him going abroad is no different to me than him going to stay with friends at the other end of the UK. Likewise I don't think you should have to inform him of what you're up to when he has the children staying with him.

Nah I wouldn’t have cared as long as it was during his time to have the kids.

Paying what he owes is your business.

His lifestyle outside of that is nothing to do with you.

I disagree with the other replies and I sympathise with the OP.

As a single parent myself, I think the other parent should let you know if they are out of the country. You don't stop being a parent when you're on holiday.

If something was to happen to you or one of the children there's a big difference in how quickly he can get back if he's in the UK compared to somewhere a flight away.

When I became very unwell and had to be admitted to hospital their father had to take care of the children. He is their father and he should take responsibility for his children in this situation.

This doesn't mean parents can't go on holiday but they should at least let the other parent know.

No I don’t think he should have to tell you and I wouldn’t tell my ex either

Is he not contactable on his mobile?

tbh I rarely contact my ex if there’s an emergency, obviously if a dc was very unwell or badly injured I would want to contact him.

I don't think you need to know where he is unless he's due to collect the dcs and doesn't show up.

I wouldn't ever tell my ex where I go. It is absolutely none of his concern. It would be a stalker's charter.

If you are divorcing and you believe money is being hidden, tell your solicitor.