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How would you feel...?

30 replies

Jumpking · 30/04/2022 00:00

...if you found out your friend/sibling/adult child/someone you respected/colleague

was a regular attender at a sex/swingers club?

OP posts:
seensome · 30/04/2022 00:05

Slightly uncomfortable knowing too much about it but I'd feel it's none of my business.

OhLordyWhatNow · 30/04/2022 00:07

I did find this out about a friend, they told me themselves. My thoughts were:

Why are you telling me this
It's none of my business
I'm not interested and don't want to hear any more

As long as it's between consenting adults, is legal, and doesn't cause harm or distress to others, or impact me or another unsuspecting soul... live and let live.

Sunnytwobridges · 30/04/2022 00:42

I would be fascinated and want to know all the details 😂

JustATomCat · 30/04/2022 00:45

Ask to go along?
Joking.🤣🤣

TravelDreamLife · 30/04/2022 00:50

I'd be oh, ok, cool, next topic.... (especially if a family member!)

They're not hurting anyone, scamming, stealing, cheating, being nasty. Those people I do lose respect for. Someone's by consent sexual antics are literally not my business & I really don't want to know!

PeachesToday · 30/04/2022 00:54

Shrug and move on with my own business

Monty27 · 30/04/2022 01:03

None of my business is how I'd feel.
How did you find out?

Monty27 · 30/04/2022 01:04

JustATomCat · 30/04/2022 00:45

Ask to go along?
Joking.🤣🤣

Me not too. But each to their own. 🤣

Lookingoutside · 30/04/2022 03:26

How would I feel? About someone I respected identifying their sexual preferences and then seeking to have them met?

How would I feel about someone I respected going about the private matter of their sex life?

Are you Joking?

DaSilvaP · 30/04/2022 03:58

Jumpking · 30/04/2022 00:00

...if you found out your friend/sibling/adult child/someone you respected/colleague

was a regular attender at a sex/swingers club?

How would you find it out in the first place?
By going to one of these parties yourself?
As far as I know, people going to swingers clubs are usually very discreet, and even between swingers it's very bad form to ask too many questions. Also, with rare exceptions, swingers are not in the habit of dissecting their habits to outsiders.

Bunty55 · 30/04/2022 04:02

How would I feel if I found out? It's more a case of how you found out methinks !
It's none of my business what other people do.

sammylady37 · 30/04/2022 06:03

Not remotely concerned

alittlefickle · 30/04/2022 06:15

It would be nothing to do with me!
Hope they had fun :-)

AlternativePerspective · 30/04/2022 06:24

Well, it’s all a bit seedy but tbh I’d rather not know.

AlternativePerspective · 30/04/2022 06:28

Equally I wouldn’t want to know if someone I knew was into s&m or anal or whatever else people choose to do in the bedroom, or wherever else they do it.

people’s sex lives are a private matter, discussing them in public is all a bit grim really.

So I guess that means it would depend on how I found out. If someone told me that they knew x was part of a swingers club I might just roll my eyes and move on, none of my business as it were.

If x themselves told me they were part of a swingers club I would wonder wtf they wanted to be so open about it, and think that the telling rather than the doing was all a bit grim really.

LoveSpringDaffs · 30/04/2022 06:34

my neighbour told me, they invited me to join.

🤷🏻‍♀️

if it's you, my advice would be keep it to yourself, your parents/siblings/children do NOT need to know. Friends you take a risk of losing them or them wanting to join in.

if it's a friend/family member you can feel however you want about it, makes no difference what a hundred strangers think.

Shoxfordian · 30/04/2022 06:40

Whatever floats your boat; none of my business

ThatshallotBaby · 30/04/2022 06:44

Absolutely fine. I’d probably think good for them Smile

UseOfWeapons · 30/04/2022 06:50

I’d be fine with it. Why should it bother me, it’s their life, not mine.

DivorcedAndDelighted · 30/04/2022 06:58

I'd think good for them, and that they probably were an adventurous sort of person, and I'd think how much more decent it was of them to do this rather than cheating.

xfan · 30/04/2022 07:20

I'd ask them what their username is (assuming it's Fabswingers) and look them up
😂Also this assumption that no infidelity goes on in the swinger's world is rather deceiving of course there is but what am I, the moral police?

SomeonesRealName · 30/04/2022 08:11

I'm surprised people are so laid back about this if it was a woman I cared about, particularly if it was my adult daughter, I'd be concerned that the situation could be dangerous or exploitative.

JoeGoldberg · 30/04/2022 08:19

Wouldn't bother me at all. Absolutely none of my business. I have a long standing friend who's been on the fetish/swinger scene as long as I've known her. Doesn't affect who is is as a person or as a friend!

NoSquirrels · 30/04/2022 08:26

How would I feel? My predominant feeling would be that ignorance is bliss and that I wish I didn’t know. Who wants to consider other people’s sex lives?

(Slight caveat would be dependent on who the person was - I’d want to check they were completely happy with their choices and not coerced in any way if I thought they were vulnerable. But mostly, I’d feel it was none of my damn business.)

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 30/04/2022 08:28

Shrug, and get on with my own life. Other people's sexual interests and habits are none of my business and of no interest to me.

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