Feeling upset being left out of plans with family

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I know I'm being ridiculous with this, but I've been having a tough time recently and feeling extra sensitive so just needed to get it out.

My Mum has a sister (my auntie). I have no sisters and no female cousins and have always felt quite sad about it at family gatherings, especially when I see friends close with their sisters and/or female cousins (I know that sounds ridiculous).

I get invited to join my Mum and Auntie on their 'sister days'. I don't go all of the time, but over the past couple of years we've started going to the spa together, maybe once or twice a year and it's become a bit of a 'thing' that we do together. We went to the spa a couple of months ago for my Auntie's birthday. My Mum mentioned today that my Auntie has arranged for the two of them to go for a spa day next month. I understand it's nice for the two of them to spend time together without me, and I know in my 20s I am more than capable of arranging my own plans with friends etc, but I just feel a bit sad about it and worry that I've somehow been attending gatherings when my Auntie would have preferred I wasn't there...

To be honest, you haven't really been left out of plans with family (your title makes it sound like there is some massive family get together happening that you ahven't been invited to). Your mum and her sister are spending some sister time together, just the two of them, which is fine.

One person taking their child with them all the time (whether a small child or a grown up child) changes the dynamic so perhaps on this occasion, your auntie just wanted to spend time with her sister.

You do sound a bit ridiculous. I think you need to arrange things with your own friends and stop relying on your mum and auntie for your social life.

In the kindest way you need to get over yourself.

It's a little odd you're getting upset about your mum spending time with her sister. You need to hang out with your own friends.

I always wanted a sister too. I have two daughters now and I love it. Maybe you will find a sister in your life another way. I do understand how you feel, but you need to let them have their sister time sometimes.