Being blanked by family & friends

[22enigma]

I have a friend who moved a few hours from me 5 years ago. We’ve kept in touch by messages and stayed at each other’s houses too. She’s never been great with texts but over the last year, she rarely replies and doesn’t even seem to care about health issues I’ve had.
Also my sister has started doing the same.
I’m starting to think I’ve done something wrong but I don’t know what it is. It’s making me feel really sad.

Do you think you’ve maybe been putting your health issues front and centre of the friendship?

it can be quite hard to listen / reply to friend health woes if it dominates text based conversations.

Sorry you’ve been unwell

@Montuaklighthouse thanks for your reply. No , not at all. I hardly mention them. just meant I I did mention them once, neither of them acknowledged them at all!

Bump

I’d probably just ask them if there was something - ‘I’m really missing our texting and keeping in touch. I hope you’re ok and that I haven’t done something to upset you, can we meet up soon? X’

@KellyJonesLeatherTrousers thanks. I’ve tried a message along similar lines with the friend and tried calling - no call back 😞

Sometimes friendships die out. It’s sad but it happens and often there is no reason other than just that life happens. Of course it’s rude not to respond to other peoples messages but sometimes people are to busy or genuinely forget to respond.

Just move on and focus on your self and health. You will make new friends.

There could be any number of reasons communication has dropped off and it may have little to do with you. Perhaps they have stuff going on that you don't know about. Try not to conflate the two issues and blame yourself, that way beating yourself up lies. Perhaps ring and ask if something is up as you haven't heard from them for a while. If that doesn't work back off. It's very frustrating but you can't make people contact you. You have to move on after a while.

Just seen you have already tried, apologies. Just keep busy and let it lie. It's actually quite rude to ignore you.

@Dacquoise yes, I know you’re right. Just a bit sad about it. I have tried calling/suggesting meeting up/arranging phone calls but don’t get anything back. Guess I need to leave it.

@Chica10 thanks you’re right. If only it was easier to make new friends though!

I think you would be kinder to yourself by not blaming it on you. Unless they specifically communicate that there is an issue with you don't assume it. It's not helped by them not replying, which is rude and unkind tbh, but try not to go to that place where it must your failing. I think it's very easy to do that. 💐

@Dacquoise thank you ☺️ I think it feels worse as it’s my friend and sister doing similar at the same time.

That's coincidence not damning evidence against you!

@Dacquoise ☺️

Sorry that's happened to you.
I agree with some of the others, try not to blame yourself.
Maybe they do have things going on that are taking up their time.
I would suggest you leave them be, however much it hurts. Let
them contact you next time, if they want to; otherwise you can't
make them continue communications with you. I've come across
similar situation with some people. It's hard. I finally had to tell
myself, I have to just stop contacting them because it seems to
be one sided.