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Husband says he’s unhappy

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Magnolia2022 · 26/04/2022 15:00

He’s been off lately. He’s just had a bereavement in the family which has obviously upset him a lot. We have kids already but had planned one more in a few years. Mostly because I wanted it. Well I thought I wanted it. He went out this weekend and didn’t come home (he stayed with his sister so I know there’s nothing going on). He then broke up with me the next morning saying he hates his life, the kids are badly behaved (they can be a bit overwhelming at times but over all it’s manageable). He goes on to say it’s not me, he still loves me etc. so then a few days on we talk and he says he doesn’t want another child. I agreed that’s fine and he should have just said rather than acting all dramatic about it. After we talked I was just happy that everything was ok but now I’m having serious doubts about him. If he’s bottled that up for months and been acting miserably how do I know he won’t just get up and leave? How do I know he actually does love me and want to be with me? Feel a bit upset over this. He’s never ended the relationship before in all the years we’ve been together.

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frozendaisy · 26/04/2022 17:00

Well none of us know our spouses won't just get up and leave. It's a gamble.

You just have to live life as best you can and deal with any shocks along the way as and when they happen.

Guess all you can do is to keep checking in with your husband, find time to talk, not just about your relationship but everything, life goals, worries, needs.

A relationship shake-up can be just what everyone needs to make a leap forward and progress onto the next stage. There are positives in big life jolts.

Overthewine · 26/04/2022 21:23

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Magnolia2022 · 26/04/2022 21:35

How depressing Overthewine 😣I’d like to think the pressure of life just overwhelmed him. He’s just hit a big number birthday and had a family death so probably thinking life’s short and he’s not living it to the full. If he leaves it’ll be a midlife crisis I’m guessing. Financially everything would be split. I have a good career and feel I would cope with being alone I’d just rather have him in my life obviously. Just feels unnerving that he was feeling this way and not communicating it

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