Am I overreacting - bf poorly

[Orangeyjuice]

Bf texted me saying he feels very poorly whilst at work - bad cold and headache. I offered he could come to mine so I can look after him. It’s the same distance for him to drive home as it would be to come mine so no extra effort.

At beginning of relationship he fell ill and I looked after him, he always said he just wants me around to take care of him and my company is his favourite when he’s sick.

Now he’s saying “no, don’t worry, my dinner is sorted anyway and I wouldn’t be much company”. This feels different to the beginning when he really wanted me around to look after him when he was sick.

Am I being dramatic in thinking he may not be as into it anymore or want to see me for any other reason ?

I’d want to go to my own home too if I was sick. Presumably all his clothes and toiletries are there.

Your over thinking it. He is an adult with a cold, all he needs is an early night and some paracetamol. He doesn’t need looking after.

He probably just wants his own bed and a early night.

Overthinking it. Honestly when dp and I got together it was sweet but now I feel more comfortable being honest about the reality which is simply I don't like to be fussed over. I love him more now than I did at the start and I feel more comfortable just saying no. Hell he lives in the house with me and knows if I'm ill I just want to be left alone.

Unless there are other reasons then leave it be (I also gently suggest don't make this about your needs, nothing more irritating than having to pander to others needs to help when you aren't well.) It likely means nothing more than he wants to go home and feel rubbish.

You're way overthinking it. He probably just wants to crawl into bed with a Lemsip & an early night.

Yes you’re overthinking. Sometimes when we feel ill it’s nice to have someone take care of us and sometimes we just want bed and rest.

Most of us - when we feel a bit unwell - just want to be at home in our own bed & completely left alone. Adults don't need "looking after".

Overthinking it

Honeymoon period does end at some point though. You're both entitled to your own space. Especially if poorly or in any other way not feeling the best

Early in my relationship with DP, before we lived together, I had a nasty cold. He came over and fussed over me, brought medicine, made me a risotto to last the week. It was one of the nicest things anyone had ever done for me and was a significant step in me realising he was a keeper.

But ultimately when I am ill I mostly want to be alone. Doesn't mean I didn't appreciate him then - but when I'm feeling like death, and usually constantly coughing or sneezing or sniffing, I'm really not good company for anyone but myself.