OH threw something at me

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My 18 month old didn't want to eat his last 2 spoons of weetabix and my boyfriend said (jokingly) that can't have a banana unless he finishes it and takes the bowl to feed him. My LO starts crying (he understands that food is going to be encouraged and doesn't want it). I abruptly tell him to stop it as I don't want him to have issues around breakfast as it's the only meal he'll always eat. Cue shouting (he said it wasn't shouting and I don't know what shouting is) that he is sick of being treated this way and some other stuff which I have forgotten because I keep replaying the next bit over and over.
He then throws the banana at me and I bat it away and it lands on the floor. He said he was throwing it to me and it was going over my head. It felt very different to me. We don't throw bananas at each other. It's was in an argument. I just can't see that there is a viewpoint of he was throwing it to me. Can you?
He left for work with us not speaking.

Also, just found out I'm pregnant again 3 days ago. Maybe I'm overreacting because I feel absolutely terrible.

What is your relationship normally like? If you usually get along great with little or no arguing and no aggression, then I'd say this could be a one-off, although you may feel that actually he threw with aggression and out of anger. And throwing stuff at someone in anger, no matter what it is, is never OK (if he'd had a glass in his hand would he have thrown that?)

But it may be that emotions are running high with you both, and you felt irritated at what he was about to do, he felt irritated at being told how to parent...

However, if he has a pattern of getting aggressive and angry, then that's another matter......

Throwing bananas aside it isn't healthy to make a child that small eat everything on his plate. He had enough. Force a child to eat and they'll end up with an eating disorder like I did.
Also shouting over him, again associating food with anger is really bad news. He needs to get a grip before he damages your LO. It doesn't take much.
Throwing things pathetic tantrummy behaviour from an adult. I'd be wanting to know what his problem is.