6 months pregnant and partner has cheated

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Hi, I don't usually post anything about my relationship but I really need some advise. I have been with my partner for 3 and a half years, living with his family and I'm currently 24 weeks pregnant. I knew my partner had been on dating sites previously in our relationship (numerous times) and I was stupid enough to let it slide because he had never met the woman and had just spoken online only.. I recently found out that not only had he been back on dating sites here and there but I also found text messages to escorts who he had arranged to meet with and confirmed in the messages he was outside and which door to come to etc. His excuse to me is that he did go to see the escort but only went to see what she looked like and then said he forgot his wallet and left. I'm absolutely heartbroken, I've let so many things slide with him but I never expected him to do this whilst I'm carrying his baby. How do I move on from this? Can trust ever be built again? Do I need to leave him and only allow him to contact me when it's discussing our child?

Tbh, it doesn't really matter whether you could trust him again. that's a pointless question because he isn't trustworthy.

He's showing a clear pattern of behaviour that is escalating. I'm sure you know that he was having sex with the escorts despite his poor excuses and denials. Realistically the only way you can move forwards and continue a relationship would be to accept that it is an open relationship where he will be having other partners. If this is not what you want then you need to leave him. Men like this do not suddenly become committed and trustworthy.

Whether you leave or not is surely a question of whether you have somewhere to go? Can you leave?

The question of whether you should or shouldn't stay with this twat is answered isn't it already. He won't change.

Do his parents have any idea what a waste of space this twat is? will they help you and support you in anyway to move and set yourself up somewhere else.

Sorry to hear this, must be totally horrible for you.

He will NEVER change. Move on with your life with your baby. Meet someone who deserves you.

Think about your future with him, the real one not a dreamy one. He will break your heart over and over and over again.

xx

Only you know if you can trust him again. But as pp have said, his behaviour seems to be worsening every time you let it slide. I'd have to leave if it was me.

He won't change so you either put up with it or leave. If you are pregnant and he's been sleeping with others and with prostitutes, it's imperative you get a STD test asap.

You and your baby can do a better, a lot better

I would definitely leave him.

I can't imagine why he will suddenly change his ways.

Do you have anywhere else you can move to/someone you can move in with?

He has literally zero reasons to change his behavior. Why would he, when he can have his cake and eat it all.

Your options are:

1. Leave cause he won't change
2. Turn a blind eye to his messaging and cheating cause he won't chanhe
3. Have a mutually open relationship cause he won't change. (but I bet he would never agree for u to see other men 😂)

If he was messaging other women when you weren't pregnant, then I am sorry to say that it was an expected escalation that he would carry on while you are pregnant, because that's when you are more vulnerable and more likely to let things slide. Just imagine the next few years of your life, when your body is recovering from childbirth or when you are too sleep deprived and knackered to provide him with the sexual services he thinks he is entitled to. Do u think he will think twice about getting his sex "needs" satisfied elsewhere? What if he gets someone else pregnant? How much are you willing to let slide, where do you draw the line?

Fair play to him for coming up with an excuse on the spot, but I'm sorry to say this guy sounds like he was never truly in the relationship in the first place, regardless of the baby on the way.

You'll never be happy with him and will spend all of your time apart worrying about where he is and what he's up to. Concentrate on yourself and your baby, that's what's important here. Why even attempt to "rebuild" trust with a person that never respected you in the first place?

You need to get an STD check..he's put you and your baby at risk of harm by having sex with sex workers. If you can get past that that is up to you but for me I wouldn't be able to.

Some people change some don't. But the fact he couldn't even refrain from heating while you're pregnant with his child speaks volumes about his trustworthiness to me.

I was in this position when I was 8 months pregnant op. I made him get an std test, more to just inconvenience and piss him off rather than thinking he had actually caught something. But he actually had and had passed it to me. I tried to carry on as if nothing had happened as I felt I didn’t have the strength to leave when I was close to giving birth (we already had a toddler). I kind of saw the light though when I was sat in the hospital with my newborn daughter, getting her tested for the std her dad may have given her off some fucking prostitute. Believe me op, I promise you that if you stay with him then you will regret it for the rest of your life

Thank you all 💗
I have my mums house where I'm currently staying now but he is contacting me constantly to say he's realised and this was wrong of him etc.. I guess he will never change, it just really hurts to accept that

They don’t change. I’ve watched a male relative cheat for 17years, he’s not even attractive but still gets women.

Leave him OP, he’ll never change. Give yourself a chance to find someone decent, or stay single happy in the knowledge you’re not spending your life with a dickhead