Hey everyone,
I posted the other day but I thought I’d give an updated post to get some advice. My boyfriend and I have been friends for 4 years and together for nearly a year now. On Tuesday last week, I received a message from a girl he used to date saying he messaged her on the weekend, sent screenshots and I kicked him out the house. I acted very rash at first, which I feel is understandable, especially because I have been cheated on in the past. When he left I was so upset and hurt, I tried to log into his Instagram to see if he was telling the truth in saying she messaged him first etc (which really doesn’t make any difference in my opinion). I have never done this before and would never usually.
Following him leaving, he didn’t reach out at all. I was the one trying to talk and he managed to turn it on me, saying I shouldn’t have tried to see his Instagram, saying he was in the hospital with no explanation and being altogether very cold.
Yesterday I’d had enough and I said we needed to call. He said he had no intention of messaging me, since he ‘fought enough to tell his side of the story on Tuesday’. He said he loves me and wants to be together but 1. I’ve broken his trust by going behind his back, 2. He doesn’t want to see me until June and 3. He doesn’t feel like he knows me.
I feel like the whole situation has seriously been turned on me. He said it was “psychotic” to try and log into his Instagram, which without a reason I would never have tried. I feel like I’ve been left hanging with no idea what’s going on.
Does anyone have any advice? X