Petrol station flowers 🌸

[Redberries85]

Hi all,

I’m OLD and had a date on Friday. I am going to see the guy again and the date went surprisingly well so this is just a question out of curiosity. I almost cancelled as I couldn’t be bothered and wasn’t sure if we would have much in common. But we chatted for hours and he was great.

When we were leaving to our cars, he said that I shouldn’t have high expectations but that he had some flowers for me in the car as he wouldn’t have come empty handed. He brought them out and they looked pretty pathetic and clearly from a garage 😬😂

The gesture was very sweet and he seemed quite shy to give them to me. I’ve never had anyone give me flowers on a first date so I was beaming.Do you think it was just a small token or would it put you off that he was so unaware about how flimsy they looked? I know this sounds super shallow - just interested in peoples thoughts

It’s the thought that counts!

Does it matter where he got them from, he got you a gift, he had a thought and acted on it.

Just to add that he meant ‘don’t have high expectations’ when he was talking about the flowers, not about how he would be in a relationship

would it put you off that he was so unaware about how flimsy they looked?

he was aware - he said as much.

I know this sounds super shallow

It is.

I think it was a lovely gesture. Sometimes petrol station flowers last for ages and are really good for the price, they just need a bit of water to perk up.

It didn’t sound like he was unaware, if he said not to expect too much? Sounds like he was a bit unsure about giving them to you.If the flowers had been out of water for hours, I imagine they were not looking their best. I would apply ‘it’s the thought that counts’ in this instance, as he obviously didn’t regard it as a magnificent bouquet!

I think it's quite sweet, it's a first date so i don't blame him for not buying posh flowers only to be rejected (potentially)
The effort of getting me anything would impress me, shows that he's thoughtful.

I think it's really sweet that he got you flowers.

It wouldn't put me off or make me judge him, no.

Yes probably looked worse as they had been in his car and wilted. Thanks for the comments, I knew I was being a meany

Another thought - if he had bought a more expensive showy bouquet on a first date, I would have been thinking it was a bit OTT, and he was trying too hard to impress.

Garage ones are surely no different to the ones that supermarkets sell and loads of people buy them

Yes really showy ones would have actually put me off as I would feel a bit overwhelmed

It seems odd that he gave them at the end of the date rather than the beginning. Almost like you'd past some sort of test. Odd but wouldn't have been concerned about them being from the garage as he acknowledged they weren't the best. It's the thought that counts.

I was once given a box of Milk Tray on a first date again likely bought from the garage on the way there. Obviously thanked him and told him how touched I was. Unfortunately he then decided that Milk Tray were my favourites (they really aren't) and he brought me a box on a fairly regular basis. Not being able to cope with yet another box of really cheap chocolate and someone who clearly didn't really listen to me I ended it.

I think that's lovely.

I think he didn’t give it at the start as we were going for drinks and would have been annoying having them there

Yes really showy ones would have actually put me off as I would feel a bit overwhelmed

Sounds like he pitched it just right then, op! For future reference, if he cuts a little off the stems, wraps the bottom of the stems in wet kitchen towel, covered with a sandwich bag, it keeps cut flowers looking a bit fresher, if there’s a delay involved in handing them over!

Thanks @watcherintherye I’ll let him know if he ever feels like getting me another bunch 😊