Happy Easter first of all those celebrating today.
Please give me ideas how to navigate today. I found myself with no preparations, plans and dreading to call my family and tell them I am by myself.
DP of 20 years decided to make a shitty comment a week ago along the lines of are you going to crazy again this year at Easter? Easter preparations take a few days, ie cooking and cleaning. It’s not just us, it’s every household I know in our culture. I wasn’t planning anything big, but make sure the day doesn’t go unnoticed. So I decided not to do anything, I did not approach him to make a plan, shopping list, etc. He only asked if I wanted something in particular from the shops, only because he was in passing. A few days ago I mentioned we got invited to a bbq today, by someone from the same culture as us, radio silence. Yesterday he asked if I wanted to go see either of two couple of friends who had invited us over. That was during an unpleasant conversation where I told him that I always am supposed to do and see his friends at very short notice but he can never be bothered to see any of mine. It’s also his birthday in a couple of days and took the day off to be with him only for him to tell me he was going to work. He finally took the day off as I was really upset but again we made no plans. Apparently he got invited for the weekend by a friend to do his favourite hobby but was too tired.
now I told him to do what he wants, as he always does, so he f’ed off for a walk(he did ask me to go with), and I am here alone in the house.
it just feels that all these years of me being cool with whatever he wanted to do, giving him all the freedom he wanted, has massively backfired.