Usually a lurker but after a long consideration and reading few posters, decided to drop my problem here and see what you think. So I recently received a fair amount of money which I would like to invest in my own small property. My DP owns his property. I am currently in between jobs so a lot of stress. He pushes me to invest with him into a large property together. My investment would be less then his, he thinks he is offering me a great deal but a) we do not need a big house with a garden b) I am uncomfortable about that financial investment imbalance (future arguments about whose house it is, who put how much in) c) he says I am not invested in this relationship because I do not want to put all my money into it. It almost feels like he is telling me what to do with my money. I have a stressful time now in other areas of life and it literally feels like he can not get off my case. I told him we can get something together when I get a job and know my earnings but he really pushes me and says I can get a mortgage with him even if I do not have a job, as long as I put the money in now, he puts his and I will join repayments later. I never heard of that.
I actually find myself regretting to come to receive this money because instead of bringing me joy and security, it causes me nightmare. Not sure what is so wrong with having property each ? Not sure if it is of any significance but there's age gap between us. Noticed few posters here with age gaps having similar issues. Is this it a thing money tantrums?