I got a message on Tuesday from a girl saying that my boyfriend had been asking her to meet up on the weekend etc. They had a short thing over two years ago. She sent the screenshots and it was a really weird conversation. She seemed really confused on the messages and he kept continuing the convo. He kept saying “I just want to talk”, “are you in…?”. She has a new boyfriend now and having spoken to her on the phone, she says she has absolutely no reason to even have messaged.
My boyfriend denied it all and said she’s manipulating the story. He said he was worried for her mental health, which she says has never been a problem for her.
I kicked him out of my house since I have been cheated on before and this really made me upset. The rest of our relationship has been great and it’s come as a massive shock to me and everyone else. I’ve had no reason to doubt him before but I’m really confused now.
Following the argument and him leaving, we’ve not had very much contact. The messages that have been sent have all been initiated by me, even though I am not in the wrong. I feel that his responses have been really blunt. The only thing he has messaged me is proof that she messaged first. I still don’t think that that excuses his behaviour.
I feel that his parents are having quite a big influence on what is going on but I’m unsure. He said he went to hospital but would not give any explanation, which I find extremely manipulative. I asked to go on a break but today I had enough and said we needed to talk. I have exams and it’s really quite stressful.
He couldn’t even spare 5 minutes to speak to me. He said he isn’t sure if he sees a future with me, but loves me nevertheless. I told him it’s just as unfair on me and so I’ve given him until Monday to contact me, otherwise I’ll presume it’s done. I actually can’t believe it’s been turned on me. The only thing which I have done in the situation is try to log into his instagram to prove him right, which I understand is wrong and have apologised for, but he says he cant see past the invasion of his privacy.
Does anyone have any views on this? Does anyone think he’s right to just leave me hanging? Im unsure whether he has other things going on mentally which are affecting it too. I do really love him and this is a massive shock.